I must be crazy valspa: This must be one of the most stupid letters to be written on this site. I am married ( reasonably happily) I became infatuated with one of our employees who is 17 years younger than me. I had known this person for about a year and had NOT really been attracted at all, but something happened and I became besotted. I fussed over him, spent money on him, spoilt him and everyone tried to warn me. Now this was a non sexual relationship, but what he did was pay me a huge amount of attention... how could I resist? He is attractive, intelligent and charasmatic, age 41 and never married. He met a young girl of 23 years and I was devastated. I had always known that as soon as he met someone else it would be curtains for me. He can only concentrate on one person at a time. I have been pining for him. I had to dismiss him as it was impossible to work with him and he was gloating anyhow. He went out of his way to make me jealous. He just loved getting a reaction from me. I became ill and almost suicidal. My husband knows about this. He is very patient with me. I think that when I became manic ( i have been diagnosed with bipolar) this whole thing got out of hand. Its like getting over a husband or boyfrind. I still miss him very much and there is a big hole in my life... what can I do? Is it just a matter of time? How childish of me, but I cant help my feelings
Re: I must be crazy idocsteve: Be thankful that he is out of your life. Your marriage probably would have been destroyed, and due to the age difference, it probably never would have worked out in the long run. Get yourself into counseling, consider medications for your mental issues, and move on with your life.
Re: I must be crazy wally188: If you care more about this man than your husband and marriage you should leave because you do not deserve your husband.
Re: I must be crazy valspa: Thnks for the two replies... both different and of course you are right. I would never have given up my marriage.... but he was soooo nice to me and I do miss all the emails, text messages and phone calls. There's no fool like an old fool!!
