How can I help? Fjord Girl: It is really frustrating for me when I see one of my closest friends in great pain and there is nothing I can think of saying or doing to make that pain go away. I understand her pain and the reasons for it, but I still can't figure out the right words to say because she has fallen in a hole of despair.
What do you do when someone you care about deeply tells you she wants to give up and you think hard about it and realize she has every reason to feel like that? Even if you know giving up is not an option, how do you change that person's mind? And what can you do if the person doesn't give you a chance to help?
I'm lost on this one. I want to reach out and help, but I feel useless. I just see a big deal of pain and I can't blame her. Life has given her the hardest things to deal with and she's completely alone. But how much I wish she talked to me and gave me a chance to, at least, try.
Any suggestions? Because I sure don't know what to do.
Re: How can I help? surprised: [quote author=Fjord Girl link=topic=35077.msg369552#msg369552 date=1159050565">
I want to reach out and help, but I feel useless.
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I think you should reach out any way you can. Even a phone call from someone who cares can help...even if there's not really anything you can do.
Re: How can I help? Fjord Girl: She won't answer the phone, she won't reply my e-mails. She just logs in and says she's broken to her core. And then that's it, she leaves and I stay here feeling like the worst friend on earth.
Re: How can I help? yella: Sometimes when we fall into a deep depression, the last thing we do is openly reach out to someone for help. I know because I've been there.
I've fallen so deep that I did what she is doing... completely ignore the help that's there, but let little signs in too. If she's still saying how she feels, then she's ok. Just deeply depressed. It's when you know nothing at all you should really worry.
I'd give her the space she needs, but let her know every now and then that you're there for her when she's ready.
Many times it's the closest people to us we push away when we hit that deep into depression. Give her support, but let her find her way out too.
Re: How can I help? freovir: is this a local friend?
when my life splintered into a million pieces several years ago i had a friend show up at my door. she said, "i don't know what to do, but i'm just going to sit here in case you want something." she was here for a week.
that was appreciated.
