Re:Confusion confusion confusion...what should I do? wmessin: My divorce should be final no later than August 19th. The only thing I could see happening is us deciding to delay it, but I honestly don't think she'd be willing to. She brought that up about a month and a half ago and I shot the idea down. In hindsight, I don't know if I would have responded the same if she brought it up for the first time now.
Re:Confusion confusion confusion...what should I do? LKN4ME: I understand how you both feel. I'm doing the limbo too.
My husband and I are trying to work things out. He was the one who cheated on me. Twice.
With my first huband I planned on leaving the abusive SOB for 2 years. During that 2 years I paid off close to $6000 in bills that "we" ran up. And I got it almost all paid off when we got into an arguement one day and I was afraid he was going to hit me and just snapped. I told him to get out so I could pack. I walked away and never went back. Tried to get divorced "Being friends" ended up with a concussion and spent 1 year fighting him in court.
With my current husband I've never had to worry about that. I'd have to re-introduce him to my best friend Taurus. 38 Special. I only have to worry about the cheating with him. And after this last time I was done. Told him to get out, we were done. Started saying all the things I'd wanted to in the past but didn't because I didn't want to hurt his feelings. I don't know what happened but he asked me what I thought about working things out.
I should have just left. But I didn't feel "Done". So here I am, giving it another go.
Wayne- Sounds like your not quite "done" with your situation too. Or am I reading it wrong?
All I can say is: If you don't feel "Done" and want to give it another shot then do it. You don't want the "what if's" down the road because you didn't try.
And don't feel guilty about staying, if that's what you decide. It doesn't make you less of a man because you stayed.
I'd probably still go through with the divorce though. If it turns out that it's meant to be, you can get married again.
I know with me, our vows meant nothing to him so if he's going to prove to me that he loves me then we'll be getting married again. (No, not divorced, still legally married to the cheater) but it may help me learn to trust him again. To know that he's saying the vows witha fresh start. Maybe this time I'll suggest we write our own.
I told myself I wouldn't stick around for cheating, but here I am. Now, don't think I'm a girly girl because I'm not. I'm the type to not back down no matter how bad I'm going to get my a** kicked. I've been in enough fights. Can't say that I like getting my butt kicked though. :)
Like the quote: "What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger"
Good luck to you with whatever you decide to do.
Re:Confusion confusion confusion...what should I do? picadilly: lol. What is it with Americans & their guns?
Although, technically for a cheater, shooting them would be too good, they would be dead & you would be in jail. That isn't a fair trade off in my mind. What you should do is the "Bobbit" maneuver, you may still go to jail over it but everyone will know that he's "stubby".
Wayne, just wanted to say, guard yourself over this one. If you really want to reconcile, fine & best of luck to you but be prepared if it doesn't work out again. I could never do it, I could never go through that pain of loss over the same person again if it failed. I couldn't & I won't.
Re:Confusion confusion confusion...what should I do? Good to be ME: LOL Pic that was just too funny. I have never heard a male make the bobbit comment before
;D
too cool
Cheers all
Re:Confusion confusion confusion...what should I do? cloud: Piccadilly has a point.
Can you drop it now without regretting that you didn't look into it one more time?
Time will tell if she gives you enough of a reason to try, I guess. Or time will tell you if you haven't within you to want to try.
Basically, I think the whole "time will tell" and "time heals all wounds" is bunch of garbage to hear. But here I'm saying it.
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