Re:Confusion confusion confusion...what should I do? cloud: How do you manage in the limbo stage?
I know it's not like you have a choice, I guess you do.
You could say I refuse to consider reconciling but your heart wouldn't buy it.
What next steps are you thinking of doing?
Does she call you or do you call her?
Maybe you could write her a letter and explain your feelings?
Re:Confusion confusion confusion...what should I do? wmessin: I'd say at this point it's 50/50 on the calling issue.
She certainly is after the comfort of her security with me, as do I with her since it's familiar. She's at the point that now when she looks at me she gets that great old look in her eyes, with a nice sincere-looking smile that I love so much. She's been smiling a lot the last couple of times she's been around me, and that's my weak spot, I've come to realize. Something so simple.
I don't know if I'm managing anything in this limbo stage. I know I probably can't afford to be hurt all over again if she runs from me in the long run, but it's like I cannot help myself. We've been through so much in such a short amount of time that it truly is hard to figure how we'll get beyond all that's happened. But then again all I ever wanted was a chance for us to work on our problems and she's as close to allowing that now than ever before. I just wish she had come around before she did the things she did.
Of course, this latest bout of us talking and being compassionate could very well be a short lived thing with her. I don't know...since I've never gone through this with her, much less with anyone else, I can't predict what will happen. That not knowing sort of makes me want to see what's possible.
UGGGHH!!! This is so damn freaking difficult.
Wayne
Re:Confusion confusion confusion...what should I do? cloud: I know where you're at--only in my case I'm not getting mixed signals, but I am saying how I feel about staying together and she is listening and thinking about what I say, but not giving me any outward sign that it's making much of a difference.
I don't know. Some days I feel like there's hope and other days I feel like I'm kidding myself or she's just kidding me.
I've put myself in this limbo stage and I'm just temporarily holding a life preserver with this hope thing until I have to start paddling again.
In your case, I hope you get some peace with things. It's so easy for someone to write a post in reply but there's nothing like the real world each of us lives in and the issues/feelings/emotions involved.
Good luck!
Re:Confusion confusion confusion...what should I do? wmessin: I know how you feel Cloud...it wasn't until recently that I got any sort of compassion or feelings from her at all. It's all coming out very rapidly and I guess somewhat overwhelming for me because I don't know if it's legit or not. I guess that's trust issues right there for me.
I wish you lots of luck too. I'll keep you informed of my situation and hope yours works out for the best. Me...I still am not sure what the best is. But I'm sort of leaning toward wanting to see if things could work out. Wow...what a scary life this is I'm living. I hope I don't get hurt all over again if she agrees to try to work things out. Sad thing is that she may not make a decision on that for a long time, so I guess I'll just keep on with the limbo until something happens, or I make the decision for us to end it...again.
Wayne
Re:Confusion confusion confusion...what should I do? cloud: When is your divorce final?
And do you feel like something has to happen before it goes final?
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