Exactly how do you date? scrdbyelmo: :P I met my stbx when i was 14 yrs old and im 26 and i never dated, except 2 or 3 "boyfriends" before him. I've been split up from my ex emotionally for almost 2 years now, we played the split up---back together game a couple of times and well I have kids and i can say i tried...anyway i did the party scene and that's old and expensive so now im seeing a guy that's great but it's so hard not to smother him. I'm so used to being married and not used to you know being single with a really good friend...you know i have my life he has his and we meet to have fun and enjoy the company....im constantly thinking he doesn't like me b/c he hasn't called...
i don't know are their any emotional foundations to set for myself i should know about or just trial and error (that's not encouraging I think i'd rather be single!!)
help
Re:Exactly how do you date? Bubba: How do you date? Easy - just ask me out. hehe. Ok bad joke, but couldn't help myself.
Just be yourself. Don't worry about it. Chances are you will likely end up dating a several guys before you actually "click" with one. You are only 26 so you have a lot of choices. You can date 20 somethings , 30 somethings, 40 somethings, etc. Depends on what you want.
Likely you discover which age range you click the best with and stick with it. Try not to let it bother when a guy doesnt call. Simply go out with friends and have good time yourself. On the plus side you are a woman so you dont have to worry about getting back into approaching a guy. Just let them come to you.
Re:Exactly how do you date? Good to be ME: wow scrdbyemo my ages match up with your ages. I was 14 years old when i started dating my stbx and we broke up and I am 26 now.
I think it takes time to start the whole dating thing up again. I have just been hanging out with friends and meeting new people. It is so much fun to just flirt with a guy and then have them flirt back with me.
Who knows what the tide may bring in (sorry about the castaway quote but it really means something)
Take care and just be yourself. The right guy will come to you
Re:Exactly how do you date? brynne: Don't rush it...& if you do find someone you really like & click with...STILL don't rush it ! Otherwise you could be setting yourself up for major heartbreak...see my post on "weekend get-away"...read the bottom post from me ! AND I didn't even rush it, we had been together almost 4 months & I thought everything was great, then bam...DUMPED :(
DON'T smother him ! Guys seem to scare easily, esp. us divorcee's carrying around our emotional baggage. I almost think they think were looking to get married again right away...but I'm NOT. In 2-3 years I think I will be ready but not right now.
I would almost like to date a divorced person just b/c you are sharing that emotional baggage & understand one another on that level.
Anyone out there ?...ha ha !
Hope
Re:Exactly how do you date? Safetykc: No comment Hope... ;)
Actually, the last four women I dated were divorced or coming out of divorces... I thought the same thing you did, we had all our shared experiences of what we went through to bring us closer and made it better...but it has it's pro's and con's...depends on the people. ;D
Don't lose Hope... ;D That never get's old saying that. hee hee
Take care.
Safety
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