Re:Exactly how do you date? ChrisJane: Date with CAUTION!
Bad experience, wised this tigress. Smuthering him may send signals that he will attempt to use his sweet charm to use you, believe me getting burned a 2nd time is just about as bad as the lying cheating ex spouse burn.
LL and Safetykc keep trying to encourage me that the RIGHT GUY will come along. Thank you two again!
Dating another divorced person may be a hard task with issues. You might find yourself doing all you can to make sure you don't do anything like his/her ex, not wanting to be compared, not giving them reason to say my ex did this.....
A book Dating Made Easy maybe!
Re:Exactly how do you date? Discarded: I'd just as soon date someone that has been married. At least they have an idea of what they are looking at if it does ever progress beyond dating. If they haven't been married they have no clue of what they are commiting to - I know I didn't the first go around and I married a divorced mother and helped raise her 2 daughters and had 3 of our own.
Wish she would have known what the words commitment, honesty, and TRUST meant though.
Re:Exactly how do you date? Safetykc: Ditto Discarded, our situations were so similar...
But just because they were sleestaks doesn't mean everyone is.
Don't judge all by the one.
Be strong,
Safety
Re:Exactly how do you date? ayne: [quote"> I met my stbx when i was 14 yrs old and im 26 and i never dated, except 2 or 3 "boyfriends" before him. [/quote">
Wow! I’m really close too that scenario too. I didn’t meet mine until I was 19, but he was the first “true love” out of high school and we were inseparable until marriage 2 years later. I’m 26 now, we would have been celebrating our 5th anniversary this October (I’m planning on a “celebration” of my own!). Anyway, I’m really nervous when the time comes for me to start dating. I never really had any “adult” dating experience. I do feel fortunate that we didn’t have children. But I wonder what other guys my age think about me being divorced. Plus, I’m still unsure of where to go to meet eligible guys.
I also don’t want them thinking similar to what Hope said
[quote"> Guys seem to scare easily, esp. us divorcee's carrying around our emotional baggage. I almost think they think were looking to get married again right away...but I'm NOT. [/quote">
I completely agree. I want to enjoy dating first, have fun and be single before settling into any sort of committed relationship.
And the other scary thing is that my STBX is the only man I've ever been with. That's another of my concerns.
Ayne
Re:Exactly how do you date? Good to be ME: [quote author=ayne link=board=6;threadid=3510;start=0#msg28171 date=1091203872">
And the other scary thing is that my STBX is the only man I've ever been with. That's another of my concerns.
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Ayne That scared me as well as i have only been with my stbx. I have talked about this with many of my friends...and a person on this site told me that if that next person is right for me then they would be willing to wait for me to be ready. Everyone is different (so I am told :))
I think now that it will be a wonderful experience getting to know another person like that when the time is right and I meet the person that I feel is right for me.
Cheers all
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