Hurt and Angry Tessa: What a nightmare. I was at my parent's house tonight. My grandmother who I haven't talked to much since the divorce called. My mom kind of made me talk to her. Stupid me I told her that I had joined a support group. She asked what kind. So, I reluctently told her a divorce support group. (it is in a near by town) You will never guess what she said then. She said and I quote, "Oh are you looking for another guy to divorce." I was in shock. I could not believe she said that. She knows that I was not the one who wanted to get divorced. What was I supposed to do? My husband packed up all his stuff and moved out while I was at work with out any notice or explanation. How is that my fault?! I know she is old fashioned, but come on. She has spent most of her life alone because her husband died at an early age. Her husband had been married before though and gotten divorced. Her brother was divorced. One of her sons is divorced. How does this make me a bad person?
I am so angry and hurt right now. I don't ever want to talk to her again. How could she be so cruel? The thing is she has always said and done hurtful things to me. Well this was the last straw. I told my parents what she said and told them I am never talking or seeing her again. My mom doesn't blame me and was very mad.
The thing I really hate is my divorce is breaking up my family. A lot of my family members have turned their back on me. So, my mom is really upset with them. It seems like everyone is mad at everyone else. It really stinks. I really need my family and they are turning their backs on me like my friends did. :'( :'( I didn't do anything wrong except marry the wrong guy.
Has anyone else had this problem? If so how did you handle it?
Thanks, I just needed to vent.
Re:Hurt and Angry picadilly: Huge *HUGz*
Sorry to hear that the family is so messed up that they can't support their own. That makes no sense. Abso-smegging-lutely none.
Don't be ashamed, support groups are great, I still keep in touch with a couple people in mine, they will stand behind you even if your family doesn't. I'm just glad to hear your parents are still there for you & really, thats the most important.
Sometimes older people just say things before they really think about it. I think it's like the mother in Golden girls... just one of those things, the older they get, the faster the mouth moves before the mind, sort of like being a kid. Anyway, forgive her or don't, remember she isn't much longer of this earth.
Peace & love to you. Be well.
Re:Hurt and Angry Good to be ME: lol that is my mom totally. she is very supportive but sometimes says things before thinking about how it sounds :)
cheers
Re:Hurt and Angry Tessa: I understand that she says things before she thinks. But, how could that even cross her mind. It is such a cruel thing to think about little alone say. I have been trying so hard to get over so many feelings that the divorce has left me and trying to rebuild my self esteem that my x completely destroyed. Then she said that and it just blew me over the edge again. How can people even think that? Especially, when I am family and she knows that it wasn't my fault!!! I did everything I could to keep the marriage going. He did nothing.
Thank you for your kind words. As always you have made me smile. :)
I start my first support group meeting on Monday. I can't wait. I am hoping to make some friends there. I think it will be a lot easier if I can surround myself with people going through the same thing as I am. I know it has been a huge help to talk to all of you.
Thanks everyone :)
