In need of some advice or someone to help christincali: Hi I have been on here a month and been telling my story in bits and pieces as well. I broke up with my x, because of communication issues and him not being able to give me answers about where we were headed after 2.5 years (as a refresher his parents hate me initially made him break up with me, he did but came back, and we really started working on things, they caught wind, threw him out fired him, took his company car, phone and the house away that was to be his and left his house with one box). He started distancing himself and me being insecure started pressuring. and with no answers I walked out. I felt I had too. We have been in contact last week.
He texted me at 11 PM on thursday saying he missed me and could not stop thinking of me. I woke up at 2 got the message and we texted back and 4th for an hour with the i love you miss you type stuff. I finally asked him to come over and he said he was on his way over. So he came over and as soon as he walked in he just held eachother. We went and talked and I said that I needed to work on me to be a stronger person that I should have respected his family situation and we kept saying how much we loved eachother and the basis and lets work on ourselves and then things will be so much better between us. When he left in the AM he said he loved me and it was like we are in a long distance relationship (it was his bday that day).
At 4:30 PM he texted me you are the best bday present ever, lets keep working on things it is all worth it. I texted back that I agreed and happy bday and to have a good weekend (he was going hiking with some friends), so I have not heard from him since.
His friend emailed me today (a girl we are both friends with her), saying X did a lot of talking about things. he souds like helike he's really proud of the work you are doing and the progress you are making. He seemed really happy that you were working on you. He didn't really say where it would take you guys.. just that you were both doing what was good for wach of you personally. So now I am confused. I do not want to contact him and maybe I am reading into it too much. Should I be happy he is talking to his friends about me in such a good light is it a step for us to get back together or what????
Re: In need of some advice or someone to help Feel: I would say to not jump into it so fast, and why don't his parents want you together, what is the big deal... they will lose their son eventually if they keep running his life?
Re: In need of some advice or someone to help idocsteve: You've heard the expression, that when you marry someone, you marry the family. His family is his judge, jury, and executioner. They will always have an effect on your relationship, no matter how strong it is. I hope you're not just spinning your wheels when you could be moving ahead with your life in a more healthy situation.
Re: In need of some advice or someone to help christincali: This I know with the family situation, the reason for them not liking me is stupid, but he has not spoken to his parents since July 25, He has a new job, got his own place and is buying a car this weekend. His parents controlled his life and I think he realized that and now wants his freedom. I mean at 28 (now 29), he washed their cars, and did whatever they said and he assumed when they moved out into the new house he was building that it would change and admitted that what he did by including them in our relationship was not fair. It just sucks because we know we love eachother and do not want to be with anyone else, but I guess maybe that is what I am doing holding on for nothing. But I want to believe that all he said to me he meant and that we will work out
