feeling lost pear08: :'(
I would like to tell my story here and see what you guys could give me for support. I desperately need this.
3 years ago, I went out with this guy, who was so sweet and kind to me. I took him home to my country to introduce him to my parents, move away to another city so he can continue his education. Around last year, we started to talk about marriage,...then, I continued to talk, but not him. I wanted to break up as there was no sense anymore. I felt his reluctance, but he always persuaded me to stay...stating he is just waiting for the right moment. Now, the right moment has not come, 2.5 years later and I finally found out that he is still not decided. We have been apart x 1 month how and it's painful for me. I can't see a reason to hate him because I loved him so much to want to marry him.
But this is not the reason now to think of him, I need to forget him, but I can't. I moved out, now, am away from Boston so I dn't think of him. But I still do. I sometimes call him, but he doesn't call back: another sign that he is not interested.
I think of the good times...
What should I do? What should I do to forget him. Apperently, removing from the physical environment doesn't help either. NOthing does. My stomach is a knot, I think of him and get nauseous.
He is 28, I am 30. I could hate him for wasting my time, but I can't seem to be able to do so.
So lost:(
Re: feeling lost ace1234: Hey pear,
I know it's tough. My wife left a couple months ago. I have good days and bad days as I am sure you do. It looks like he is giving you some warning signs that you already know about. Obviously, you know you can't pressure someone into marriage and if you do, it will end up the same way only with way more problems attached.
Take your time and see what comes.
l8r
Re: feeling lost idocsteve: Hey, its only been a month...you knew him for a few years. It will take time to get past it. There may be nothing you can do to make it happen. You have already realized that attempting contact does no good, so give that up. Should he by any chance want to get in touch with you, he's got your number. It sounds like you are somewhat isolated, as you moved to an unfamiliar place. Make some friends, take up an old hobby, go to the library, take walks, buy a dog...keep busy. You will heal. I promise.
Re: feeling lost shpek: Hi Pear,
We understand here. It's been about 3 onths for me since my X left. It's tough. I've been really depressed, sad, lonely - all that. The depression is getting a little better but its hard to adjust, especially when u really wanted it to work. I thought I had met my life partner. I thout we were soul mates... but it didnt work out. I am 36 she was 26. I'm not iinot the bar scene either. It taking it one day at a time... and TIME is the only factor that can help.
What do you all think?
Re: feeling lost td7629: [quote author=shpek link=topic=35509.msg376781#msg376781 date=1159887029">
What do you all think?
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Yep, Shpek is right, "Time heals all wounds"
Hang in there.. take it one day at a time.
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