Re: Do women take it harder? snkpack: I'm with the crew that doesn't think breaking up is harder for either gender. Society tends to be more acceptant of a woman voicing her pain whereas its viewed as a bit emasculate for a man to behave the same way by being very vocal about their feelings. So a man might be suffering the same or even more pain, but its just not as acceptable for them to show how hard a time they are having.
Re: Do women take it harder? pluscachange: [quote author=Fjord Girl link=topic=35531.msg376642#msg376642 date=1159878966">
I think that more than taking it harder, we're simply more capable of expressing how we feel than men do, so that gives people the idea that it's harder for us.
What Beren addressed (suicide rates) is probably because of some men's inability to exteriorize what they go through and its getting overwhelming.
Just my thoughts.
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I don't think the way to express is the reason. Men and women deal with feelings like some people deal with math. Women scribble their methods all over the paper, going here or there, trying a hundred different ways to the solution (that's an analogy for talking, talking, talking). Men do math in their head, and write the answer down (an analogy for not talking)
But in both cases, the answer gets expressed.
There seems to be an odd perception in the last 30 years that because men do not "write it down on paper", that somehow this is why they have problems. Fact is that's probably not the case at all. Men and women simply deal with the same problems in different ways. Because men don't deal with things like women, and vice versa, doesn't indicate a flaw in either's methodology. It indicates that they're different.
For example, lots of guys don't say a lot, yet manage to never commit suicide over highly emotional issues like divorce. Lots of women talk until they're blue in the face, and still commit suicide. It's the conclusions they come to that produces the results, not the way they came to the conclusion.
