Re: Living together before Marriage... yes or no? 2be: [quote author=katelyn link=topic=35551.msg376933#msg376933 date=1159894786">
if you love someone you're either committed or you're not - and if they leave the toothpaste in the sink and their underwear on the floor, it shouldn't change that.
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It shouldn't but it does. No matter how great a woman is... if she was an absolute pig at home I wouldn't do it. Domestic compatibility is extremely important and no matter how committed or loving you are with your SO... after years of them leaving Colgate on the counter with it's cap off... it WILL start to drive you nuts.
Re: Living together before Marriage... yes or no? katelyn: Well, wouldn't you be able to tell that by visiting her home? Yeah she might keep it clean the first few months when you visit but if she's a pig it will show eventually.
I just think there are better ways to know than just shacking it and giving it a 'test drive'.
Re: Living together before Marriage... yes or no? 2be: [quote author=katelyn link=topic=35551.msg376945#msg376945 date=1159895165">
Well, wouldn't you be able to tell that by visiting her home? Yeah she might keep it clean the first few months when you visit but if she's a pig it will show eventually.
I just think there are better ways to know than just shacking it and giving it a 'test drive'.
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Yes, you can tell by visiting the home. I do'nt want to come across like I'm thinking it is a "test drive." When I do it, I am committed. I take it just as seriously as marriage. I guess I was just curious if people had religious "sinful" objections to it.
Re: Living together before Marriage... yes or no? katelyn: I totally understand 2be. At one point I felt the same as you, but I've since changed my mind. To me, if you take it as seriously as marriage, then why not get married? What's the difference? Protection. Or - more likely, an illusion of protection.
If you need that, I don't want to move in with you anyway. I'd rather wait until you're sure you want me forever before I take such a big dive. Protection is basically preparing for failure, talk about sabatage. Who wants to move their whole life in with someone like that?
Does that make sense? And yes, for me, it is an old fashioned religious point of view.
Re: Living together before Marriage... yes or no? fkunone: I don't think either situation provides a benefit. I think that as in any relationship, if you're able to work out things personal to you between each other in order for things to go forward, then you'd be able to work out the living situation when you're married or just deciding to live together.
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