Trust Issues td7629: Ok, I realize I have trust issues.. Does anyone else have them and what have done to help you to start to trust people again?
Re: Trust Issues ctrlaltdelete: Trust is a choice. You can choose to trust someone or not and consider this... is it fair to distrust everyone because a few people have betrayed you?
It is hard - believe me, I know. I have been cheated on repeately by ex-boyfriends, ex-fiancees and my ex-husband. But here's my rule - I will trust my S/O unless he betrays that trust. Some people will give the other person chance after chance after chance, but that's how I am different. Due to my past experiences, the person I am dating / engaged to / married to gets ONE chance. You cheat on me even once and you are gone. Period. No discussion, it's just over immediately. No longer will I allow myself to be walked on and no longer will I accept the blame for that person's stupid decisions.
Just my opinion, but cheaters are cheaters and I am not stupid enough to believe that someone will only cheat once and never do it again. I won't be hurt like that again, but again, that's by choice.
Re: Trust Issues shpek: I think that justmenow makes a good point. My twist on it is to be VERY careful and keep your head in realty and not la la land when you start dating someone. Be trusting, to a point, but give all your trust over 100% especially in the beginning.
however there are no gaurantees if things seem to be going great for a long time then something happens. It's the risk we all take.
my 2cents
Re: Trust Issues big_daddy: I've never been a trusting person by nature.
People start with me at a neutral point. From there, they either earn trust, or they lose it. No one in this world, other than my kids, starts out with my trust.
Is it fair? Is it right? Nope. But its how I am. Particularly now.
Re: Trust Issues darkrose: I trust until I'm given a reason not to. I think that's actually my problem. Well, that and I trust THE WRONG PEOPLE.
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