Re: Trust Issues Trish: Uh yeah. You get screwed over by a 20 year relationship for an ugly women that tends to give you a little trust issue.
But on the other hand, I won't punish the nice soul that comes along and thinks I'm worth some time of his because someone else was an asshole. I have to take some responsibility in why I allowed him to be with me as an asshole so it's not fair to transfer that non trust issue over to someone else. It will be hard but that's when rationality and reality have to come in and help you renew your mind and thinking. It's all about changeing your mind and surviving without becoming bitter. Besides, why should we suffer any longer than we have allowed ourselves to suffer? Give up the trust issue or at least put in on hold so the wonderful guy that thinks your wonderful or vice versa can have a nice experience with you. I plan on it. ;)
Re: Trust Issues Trish: OH the answer to how you start? You just do it. Like the other person said in here...UNTIL THEY GIVE YOU REASON TO MISTRUST. I think Trust should be automatic until proven otherwise. WE tend to do it backwards because the world teaches us to not trust and trusting is bad. Keeping your guard up is different from not trusting.
Re: Trust Issues Spike: Trust is earned, it's a process, an ongoing process actually. To just trust someone until they give you a reason not to, is setting yourself up for being a sucker. To distrust everyone makes you a paranoid freak. To give a person a chance to earn your trust, is the dating game. Little challenges, to reassure yourself, and bigger ones that prove they can be trusted is what relationship building is all about. Now, to go one step further, after your trust has been earned, is it forever? NO!!!! Make sure you challenge it every now and then, to trust blindly, will bring you back here over and over.
Re: Trust Issues Trish: Or you can do it Spikes way. He's got good points too. Look I'm trying out this nice girl shit okay. It's not working well right now for me. I still won't punish the next soul that comes along but I do like how you put it as making it a challenge. See you can learn something everyday.
Re: Trust Issues td7629: Ok.. Let me explain.. I trust my family and my good friends that I have had for years and I trusted my ex completely..We were together for 16yrs.. he was my best friend. To know that someone who I trusted with my life could do such a horrible thing to me scares the crap out of me. I want to be able to give someone that trust again but I can tell that it may be a bit of a challenge for me.. Can anyone else relate to this?
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