Re: My brother TeddyR: There are no words to say.In time after the hurt and pain lessens,acceptance needs to occur and then a gradual moving forward.We can only take the experience and learn that everyday counts and to keep your loved ones close to your heart.Thankfully we can recall fond memories of those who passed through our lives.
SC,an anniversary is comming up for me in 3 days.My Grandfather passed away October 7,1994 unexpectedly.I was very close to him and had a terrible time dealing with the loss.October 1994 is a bad month for me also since i had a good friend of mine killed in a car crash on Halloween.I had another family member also pass during this month.So i share with you the grief that October brings.
"Loss" ,regardless if it's a loved one passing or even a failed relationship,we go through similar inner turmoil that seemingly takes a bit of you with it.We try like heck to get back to where we were again as a whole being,but the best one can do is to accept,learn from the loss and move forward.This is what i learned and i hope you may find something useful from it.
Re: My brother superwife: [quote author=mariher link=topic=35562.msg377674#msg377674 date=1159975544">
What I want to ask you is...if you had known from the start how your brother was feeling, what do you think you would have done to try getting through to him or show him that you loved him? I don't know how to go about it and after reading your post I realize that our situations are quite similar. Thanks for reading... :)
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That's a tough question, Mariher. I was 20 at the time, and not nearly as wise as I am now :D. But yes, I definitely would have tried something. Ironically, at the time, I had just graduated nursing school, and 6 months prior to his death, we studied depression and suicide. This was around the same time as Kurt Cobain (of Nirvana fame) killed himself. Being only 20, and a huge fan, I was quite crushed, and my brother and I spoke about that. But honestly, I don't know what I would have said to him, or how I would have intervened. it is tough to knock sense into someone who is so depressed, and set on doing it (if they truly are, that is). And I know my parents would have been completely useless (no offense, mom and dad), but the ywould not have been able to handle it. This, I know b/c when I was feeling deprerssed 2 years later, they could not handle it either, so I kept them out of that part of my life.
Re: My brother superwife: [quote author=TeddyR link=topic=35562.msg378185#msg378185 date=1160007764">
SC,an anniversary is comming up for me in 3 days.My Grandfather passed away October 7,1994 unexpectedly.I was very close to him and had a terrible time dealing with the loss.October 1994 is a bad month for me also since i had a good friend of mine killed in a car crash on Halloween.I had another family member also pass during this month.So i share with you the grief that October brings.
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I used to love October. My ex's b-day is october, my ex bf's b-day was this week. The Mets better change my opinion about October :-\
