Re:He wants to reconcile, I don't Sparky: Hi all,
thanks for the support-I suspected that this was a pretty common thing to have happen in the early stages of seperation. I am going home for a visit in early september and he has invited me to go to a concert w/him. I am going to see if it's possible to make it a group outing. I am wary of the confusion that could arise from him thinking this was a date, or a sign of me 'coming around' when I'm looking at it as two friends going to see a show. Two friends with a very complicated history!! I do have to see him when I'm up there because he needs to sign the papers. If that doesn't take him out of denial, I don't know what will. I am hesitant to do anything beyond taking care of business with him because of how it could be misread and get his hopes up when there is no hope for a reconciliation. What would you do? I don't want him to feel like I'm shutting him out of my life, but on the other hand I don't want him to read into the situation things that aren't there. But then he did decide to move 800 miles away. So who is shutting who out?
Sparky
Re:He wants to reconcile, I don't Safetykc: Hey Sparky,
This is just my opinion, but you may want to skip the concert. Unless you have a burning desire to spend the evening with your STBX just say you dont think you will be able to make it.
Then you don't have to deal with it.
But its up to you.
Take care,
safety
Re:He wants to reconcile, I don't Sparky: Safety,
I think you are spot on about passing on the concert. That's what I'm going to do. From my own experience, I know how easy it is to create hope where there is none.
Sparky
Re:He wants to reconcile, I don't sarao525: I so wish my stbx would want to reconcile, but he knows the changes he would have to make. I don't forsee it. I envy you, but if you don't want it, don't do it out of guilt. I would say be strong and hold your ground.
