ALREADY!!! tripny2k6: I was texting my. well whatever she is now, last night after I got done working out. We were texting back and forth and she is living at her parents house right now until she closes on her new house. I guess she left her phone upstairs in her old room while I was texting. Her dad was up there watching TV or something, heard the phone beeping and went in and looked at it!! I guess he didnt read the text, but he saw my name!!
She told me that he came downstairs really pissed off and asked her if she was seeing me again. She told him no, that I was just texting her with a question about our deposit from our old apartment. I totally agree with her decision to not tell him that we are really talking. I mean, when we first started back at this a few days ago, we agreed that we should really start working on our own isssues before we went out into the public again. We cant handle all the issues at the same time, at least the right way.
She of course was upset that she had to lie to him after we had just promised to not lie about our love anymore in the future the night before. She was afraid to tell me b/c she had just promised.
I am not mad at her at all. But, this kinda was a buzz kill for me. Like a slap back into reality. Her family freakin hates me! I was wondering last night if I really want to get back into this again. I love this girl more than anything in the world, and I would do anything she asked of me. I just dont want to feel like I was when we first broke up again. But, I know I would feel like that if I lost her again.
What do you guys think?
Re: ALREADY!!! surprised: That's a tough one. When my sister and her (now) husband first got back together after being broken up for a year, they didn't tell anyone. In fact no one knew anything until she got pregnant! Anyway, if you both truly love each other then I'd say keep working on it. So what if her family is a bunch of jerks...if she really loves you and wants to be with you, they will have to accept you or risk alienating her.
Re: ALREADY!!! hr: Trip, I am so happy that you are trying to work things out. Please be cautious where her family is concerned. My family hated my husband from day one. I can't count the times I was put on the spot and wedged between them. In my case it is because my husband wasn't good to me and my family only wanted the best for me. This conflict ate away at me until there was nothing left. I hope your wife is strong enough to be able to separate you and her family, because if not every time you fight or don't resolve issues she is going to side with her family and think they are right. The two of you need to build a strong foundation so that when the other factors come into the picture you can deal with them together. You have a really good chance here, but it is going to take a lot of work from both of you.
Re: ALREADY!!! tripny2k6: Well, I can say that I treat her like a princess. I mean we had some issues with some decisions that I had made, but we hardly had a fight over anything unless it involved something about her family. Everytime something would happen with her family, I would drink and make things worse. I'm working on that now.
As far as I can see she never sided with her family on anything. I mean, they dont want her to be with me but she is, you know? Its crazy!!
Re: ALREADY!!! tripny2k6: WEll, I have my third counseling session in about 3 hours. Actually looking forward to it. I'm also going to go back to AA tomorrow night. I'm trying my best guys!!
she called me today while she was on her lunch break. She was sitting up in her car and it was so damn hard not to run up there just to give her a kiss!! It took all I had!
I am trying to keep my distance right now. It proving to be pretty hard for us since when we lived together we kinda became adicted to each other. But she asked me why I hadnt been texting her as much as I used to and my response was that I have been busy. I have been busy, but I am also trying to keep that distance from her at the same time. As much as I dont want to admit this, I dont want to jump right back into this. I mean I do but I KNOW that would not fix anything. We need to work on some things first.
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