Re: I can't shake this feeling :-( DarrenB: [quote author=Plucky link=topic=35610.msg377793#msg377793 date=1159981614">
Crystal, Crystal, Crystal....how many times are you going to let this happen? It's gone beyond the point where it's 100% his fault. You have to know in your heart of hearts that this is going to be the norm with Brian.
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I completely aqree. You are totally creating your own drama here with this loser. You have been setting yourself up to get jerked around by this idiot for weeks already.
[quote"> I skirted around the subject when you first started posting about Brian, but I'm just going to say it now. You slept with him too soon and made too much of the 'relationship' about sex. I'm going to take a stab in the dark here and guess that you get extra sexual in your communications to him when you get desperate to get his attention. And I'm guessing that he only responds at that point. This past weekend, he got you all warm and fuzzy and then he got laid because he knew he could. And then he kept on moving on. You've made yourself an easy mark.
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I agree. it is obvious you are being used here Crystal, Why you keep going back for more punishment..and then posting these "woe is me" stories out her on OJAR are beyond me. I also hate to come off sounding like a jerk, but really...you are doing all this to yourself here. You have to realize that if you truly want to get out of this terrible cycle.
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Maybe the question should be why would YOU want a man that treats you that way?
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Bingo! Again Plucks is right on! You have to work on your self esteem and your own self worth. When you realize that you are special and that you are worth something, you wont put up with jokers like this guy any more.
Re: I can't shake this feeling :-( fkunone: Know what Crystal. You really don't need to know any of that stuff because anything he does, doesn't reflect your real value as a person.
So yeah, diss 'em and move on.
That's my short answer.
Trust me, you don't want the long one. I can ramble.
Re: I can't shake this feeling :-( Crystal_Blue_024: I know you guys are right... And I'm not offended by the brutal honesty, though it is hard to swallow... I know I'm keeping myself in this situation, I guess I just keep making the mistake of believing that people are better than they really are... That people have better hearts than they really do... I don't like to face the fact that some people are just jerks, simple as that, and they don't care that they're jerks, and they don't care who they hurt in the process of their games... That's the hard thing to swallow... I know what I have to do here... Because I know the situation with Brian isn't ever going to be what I want, what I need, or what I deserve... Even though it hurts :(
Re: I can't shake this feeling :-( katelyn: I just see a pattern of co-dependency, straight up dude. You latch on like your life depends on it, and when it doesn't work out - your world comes crashing down at ramming speed.
You did this with Drea - remember when you couldn't even go GROCERY shopping because she wasn't there to tell you what to buy? I remember reading that and thinking "what the f-ck man!" That is seriously an extreme co-dependency. Now you're doing it with the first man that comes along after Drea.
Remember your high you were on for a couple of weeks? It's called independency. Self Sufficiency. And you gave it up way too fast.
Re: I can't shake this feeling :-( yella: I completely agree with Plucky in this, and have been where you are.
You've got to stop this. Clearly he KNOWS that you're easy to get to. He KNOWS what to say. He KNOWS how to say it.
Basically he KNOWS how to get you into bed. Plain and simple... there's nothing else to it.
No confusion, no "maybe"... just a straight game. Wants his cake and eat it to.
Get out of it, and you'll feel better about yourself.
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