Re: Very important question, I need your help Cherry: Thank you all for your responses.
We did eventually (on Fri) talk about all of this and there is work that needs to be done on both sides. Things are pretty peaceful now, we went to dinner on Saturday night sans the children so we got a chance to hang out.
He apologised for being "childish about the whole thing" and I apologised for upsetting him and explained that I had made it clear to my ex bf that it messed things up and though it was not his fault, it probably was not a good idea to do that again.
I know that relationships take work and we also had a big discussion about shutting each other out. So we will see how things go but I am tentatively hopeful that it will go smoothly especially if we continue to talk thru any problems that arise.
Re: Very important question, I need your help Fendann: That's very good to hear, Cherry
Re: Very important question, I need your help Cherry: I am trying very hard right now to remember that I am not the only person with insecurities. And the fact that he apologised before I even really said anything impressed me. He knows now how I see it and feel about the situation and I have a better understanding of what makes him tick.
I am relieved too and tend to freak or over analize when things go rocky. Mostly because I have never had a relationship where the person wanted to work on things and talk thru things. So I have to work on my walls as well as him working on his.
Give and take I suppose. Pick your battles and all that jazz. But he has been a total sweetie the last few days so he is working to make nice. I think we are all (me him and the kiddos) going to go garage sailing and look at the trees. *sigh* I love fall!!
Re: Very important question, I need your help thejoker: my buddy's wife has an EXBF that she has over the house to hang out with the Family.. I met the kid.. I ask my friend if he wanted me to pound his head in.. My friend said "I would have to feel threated by him... I don't. So what do I care?"
Gave me a whole new light on keeping in touch with ex's
Very important question, I need your help Cherry: Would you guys be pissed and not speak to your girlfriend if an exbf called her and they chatted for a while?
She is the one that mentioned it because she was not trying to hide it from you and even said if it really bothered you that much she wouldn't do it again.
Please give me some advice. I might have been wrong but I didn't think a phone call was a mortal sin. *sigh*
