Re:Noooooo.... It's too late!!!! Safetykc: Staying strong is hard. Most STBX's experience Seperation Anxiety and flip flop back and forth. Even cheaters.
It's up to you though Fisherman whether you can handle talking to her and being a source of comfort for someone who wasnt there for you.
Most of us had to "stay strong" as you said and with kids their are just no easy answers.
So that being said...
Stay strong...
Safety