Re:The last year has been terrible ChristyM: You will get through this and you will later look back and wonder how you ever got through it, how you were ever that strong. Divorce shows a person a lot about themselves they never knew.
You sound very intelligent and very emotionally stable even if you don't feel like it right now. You are making the right decision in separating yourself from her right now. It will allow you to gain some much needed perspection.
Christy
Re:The last year has been terrible Safetykc: Things may seem bleak now...but try to take it day by day.
You aren't alone in this as we all have experienced the same pain you are going through.
I am sorry you are going through this as I am sorry we all had too. The drug use doesn't sound good.
Try to remain true to yourself and find things to do to occupy your mind...like posting on OJAR!! ;D
Take care,
safety
Re:The last year has been terrible pmass0419: I wanted to thank you all for the words of encouragement. Having found this site has helped me so much. I was at one divorce support group in my local area and all of the people were considerably older than me. I was disappointed because there didn't seem to be any younger people who I could relate to.
I also wanted to ask Leem03 if her ex still calls her. I know exactly what you are saying about wanting to know that your ex spouse is still interested in what you are doing. It is a double edge sword because you feel better about yourself when they contact you or at least try to contact you. If they don't call, then you feel like you never meant anything to them. In the end, you need to break ties because your ex is not someone that you should depend on for making you feel better. It kills me to not have my stbx is not in my life anymore. But I need to keep myself respect and cut off all ties. Sooner or later, I would guess that she will try to contact me. I really believe this. That was one of my major reasons for changing my number. I had to make it hard for her to get a hold of me. I just hope I am strong enough when she does try to come back. It might sound cocky, but I know she will try. I know her better than she knows herself. Sad thing is she knows me better than I probably know myself.
