Haven't been here in a while Raven: I was only a member for a short time, when I kind of disappeared for a bit( a couple of months ago)...Now that I've had the chance to get online for a few minutes, I thought I would come check in, and let y'all know I am still around. Fact is, I lost internet access in my home, and I don't have much time to make it down to the business center to do much more than check email these days.
For an update...I still haven't gotten my divorce( he left in March)...papers are not even filed yet. Emotionally, I am starting to heal, but the situation with my STBX is hard. He has moved his girlfriend into his parents home with him...has shoved this woman into my face, and my child's face....and he is trying to force me to move out of the apartment we shared by the end of September.
I am trying to figure out a way to move out to California, but I don't know the likelihood yet.
I hope that all of you are doing all right. I missed being here.
Raven
Re:Haven't been here in a while picadilly: Welcome back Raven, even if it's in spurts at random times. We'll always be here to lend an ear & a shoulder. I wish the best for you & moving isn't such a hard thing as you would first think it. If you feel that you can't stay where you are because of the memories, then sometimes getting a bit of prespective by moving is the way to go. That is different for every person but it could apply to you.
Good luck on that & keep us updated as you can.
Re:Haven't been here in a while Raven: Thanks! Good to see you again!
Truth is, I don't really even know how I am feeling these days. I've concentrated so much on keeping my son on an even keel...
But truth be told, My stbx...is getting worse and worse. I realize that a lot of it is the girlfriend's influence...but it is still very hurtful. He spends more time with her daughter than with his son( even will carry her daughter, and make my son walk beside him...etc).... This woman is driving MY car(no, he still hasn't given me my half of the money from the car yet..and my name is still on the registration.)
I truly hate this situation.
Mostly, I have just been incredibly frustrated.
But I am glad to be back...though I don't know how often that will be.
How have you been, picadilly? I've missed you!
Re:Haven't been here in a while picadilly: Aww... I've missed talking with you too and your words on Ojar & LJ.
I hope, other then your stbx being a retard to your son, that your son is doing well? He's fairly young so he shouldn't have much problems rebounding from this, I hope. But keep an eye on him, your a good person & I have no doubt your a good mom.
Frustrated, Ya, I understand. Sometimes the stbx/ex's do things that just make us scratch our head & wonder who they are, clearly they are not the same person that we first knew & fell in love with. And think back to when you first dated, did he try to move the world for you? If so, then yes, the OW is the one calling the shots, telling him how things are. It's a hard thing to stand by & watch that type of stuff, maybe ask him why he's not treating his son like his son deserves to be treated.
Stay focused on your son & yourself & you'll pull through as always. This is still a bumpy ride but your heading in the right direction.
Be well.
