Re:Too Late :: Act III Discarded: Sounds like you are in almost exactltly the same spot I am right now. I have went out a couple times with my STBX and it has been fun and enjoyable, but I still feel like I can't trust her nor act as if nothing has happened. She acts like she truly wants to reconcile, but after everything that has happened I'm not going to stop the divorce nor just move back in and proceed down that path.
She has to prove to me she wants back for the long haul. She has to prove to me that she truly loves me. She has to prove that she is trustworthy. I have no idea how she can do those things without me thinking it's an act or just comfortable after all that has happened. She says that right now she will just take what she can get - talking about my attention and emotions.
I really don't know what to do other than to just give it time to see how her true colors shine. I won't stop the divorce and really just want that to happen soon so I can start moving forward with whatever it is that is going to happen. I hate waiting for the next phase.
Good luck Fisherman and keep me posted as our situations are so similiar.
Sometimes I just don't think it is worth the effort. I know I can find a better spouse for me, but I also have 3 children to think about (I have custody) and I would like them to grow up in a solid family setting with both their mother and father. She did not fight the divorce, but that was primarily due to money after the temporary hearing she did not get any lawyer fees awarded and would have had to pay for them out of her pocket which is extremely limited so that really has no basis for me.
