Re:Timing of post-D relationships picadilly: heh, in Canada there is a general tax on everything, including food services. 7% GST (goods & services tax). So basicly it's take the tax x2 & round up but I do think your way works pretty good too, never thought about it that way. :P
Anyway, maybe what you need is a cowboy, Spec. Think about it, was your ex a cowboy or was he more like what you expect in a man? If he was more like what you think you want, but it didn't pan out, then maybe what you need is a change. Anyway, just a thought to help you get by out there in the country.
Stay positive, you know that things always look down before they can look up again.
Re:Timing of post-D relationships Discarded: Spectrum,
Country boys come in a huge assortment and few are anywhere near the same. Some do fit into that classic country boy cliche' but most don't. Almost all of them have a "real" job anymore and live in the country and do the country lifestyle because that is what they love. You'll find alot who only have a few acres and raise cattle, pigs, horses, or farm the land growing whatever crop, and work a regular type job the rest of the time.
I was raised on a fairly large cattle ranch for today's times for one that was not inherited or being a large family ranch. We had over 50 head of breeding cattle and 4 horses. We ran the cattle on over 1000 acres and owned a little over 200 acres. I am fairly well educated and I now work in the law enforcement community although I won't say for who, what or where, but I make a pretty good living especially for where I live. I still regularly work on the "ranch" and I love where I live. I wouldn't have things differently. So although I am not the cliche' Country boy I definately consider myself that way. Get out and explore, I think you'll find more than you expect other than some of the old chew spitting red-necked country boys although you'll find some of those also.
Are you a country woman? Time will tell, it's something in your heart and it takes time to find and nurture. Some love the idea of country life, but it's like a nice sweet dream that reality takes away. Some love the idea of country life and have a nice sweet dream that cannot compare to full color view that reality brings and cannot imagine life without being in the country. From people I've met after moving to the country it takes about 2 - 5 years for them really settle in to country life especially if you have real "winters" and you are unused to that. Country life is alot of work, you don't have alot of the conviences that the city brings, but like anything that requires work it's also rewarding if you enjoy the rewards.
I live an hour away from any real shopping stores, including groceries. To get to a shopping mall I have to travel over 2 hours, about 100 miles. Mcdonald's which most are used to being on every other corner is an hour away. I have to drive 15 minutes to even get to a mom and pop's gas station that also doubles as a little store kinda like a 7-11 or quickie mart. My nearest neighbor is almost a mile away by road. I love my space. I love sitting on the deck and watching the river below creep by. I love looking up at the blue skies and watching the clouds roll through. I love rain storms and how amazingly quiet it can be when it's snowing and it seems the world has just stopped. I love when the lightning/thunderstorm roll through and light up the sky in my own personal fireworks show. I love watching the deer in the fields, and when I get lucky I'll see a bear or a cougar walking down along the river's edge. I can't imagine life without being in the country. I have travelled the world, lived in the cities, worked on aircraft, and had a McDonalds on every other corner and couldn't stand it. I moved back to the country at my first oportunity, although I did like travelling the world and learned alot about other people and cultures.
Are you Country? Time will tell and your heart will let you know in no uncertain terms.
Sounds like you are working on a ranch as a ranch hand, with all the references to manure. Make sure you learn the other sides of country life like cooking (Jam, Apple Pie, Canning), Hunting, Fishing, and just enjoying all the different outdoor activities too numerous to list even if it is just sitting on a porch and watching the river or creek flow by.
Re:Timing of post-D relationships Spectrum: See, now there are a few misconceptions floating around due to the fact that I'm working on a farm.
I'm a city girl, pure and simple. Yes, I am willing to get my hands dirty and get myself beaten up, scratched up, and otherwise pummeled in order to get my riding education.
But I love the city. I love the restaurants, the shopping, the dancing, the culture, and the overall convenience. I will always live near one, or at least near enough to have semi-convenient access.
I'll be honest with you: 90% of the "cowboys" I've met make me want to roll my eyes. They all think they are hot sh*t, regardless of whether or not they can spell "Czechoslovakia," and they think that just because they're wearing cowboy boots makes them experts on horses and life in general.
Having a man that is interested in horses is secondary; I want a man that is interested in ME. I would love a man I'm involved with to come to the stable with me- whether he's interested in horses, or just interested in seeing me do what I love to do, that's terrific. He doesn't have to do it often. Once or twice a month would suit me just fine. More would be terrific, as long as I don't have to babysit him when I want to be riding and training.
What is more important to me is finding a man who has his own life, and wants me to be a *part* of it, just like I want him to be *part* of mine. I like to have my own life, and I like to share it, but I don't want to spend every waking moment of my life with someone. I love coming home to someone, and I love being there for someone to come home to. That doesn't mean I'm spending every free minute at home, and I don't want him to either.
Honestly, the biggest thing I learned from my failed marriage is that it is important for two people to A) Have their own quality lives, with quality friends/jobs/hobbies and B) To share them with one another enough to show that you appreciate your partner.
Spectrum.
Re:Timing of post-D relationships Discarded: Spectrum,
All I'm saying is if you get out and check around you'll find a whole mixture of people out in the country. There are very few classical "cowboys" left. The country has every type person working/living in the country anymore. You can find any type of man to date out there if you get out and check around. They are harder to find in the country however as there usually isn't a good spot to go to find whatever you are looking for. The city has "spots" that people go to hang out, talk, etc. where the country life really doesn't. Most are met through friends of friends, or happenstance meeting somewhere or job related in some fashion. Where I live it is very difficult to meet new people because most all live there own lives and are pretty discreet about their lives. It sounds like you are meeting what I call the classical cowboy's left or wannabe's at the ranch you are working at. Get out and check around I think you will be surprised.
Re:Timing of post-D relationships ChrisJane: Oh yeah, nothing better then a cowboy in tight jeans, boots and hat :P If only there were more cowboys in OH!
I use to barrel race till I took out a barrel and messed up my knee. Now riding is pure pleasure. ;) Next best thing to a man is riding in the saddle :o
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