Re:Timing of post-D relationships Spectrum: On my word choices:
I think I definitely have a bit of an attitude about dating right now. I certainly wasn't avoiding dating back in Minnesota- I wish I did, though. The one guy I dated for about 5 weeks soured me on dating; or rather, he reminded me why I had been long-term sour on dating prior to meeting the ex. He started out all charming, attractive, and interesting, then he turned into a big moronic jerk who just wanted to get laid and acted mortally wounded if I chuckled over the way he hacked his fettucini alfredo to death with a knife and fork.
Of course, there was also the charming, sweet, late-20's dentist who always seemed interested, but would never make a move. Which reminds me.... I need to dig his email address out of my purse before I lose it.
And let's not forget the semi-pro baseball player who has the table manners (and intelligence) of a caveman, and is now sending me semi-regular chain emails sayings things like, "If I called and asked to have sex with you at 1am would you: A) tell me to get lost B) say, 'hell yeah!' C) think about it or D) Tell me to come sooner" and "If you've gotten this email, you're smokin' sexy. Send it on to 6 people or your sex life will rot forever. If four or more people send it back to you, you're a porn star!"
So yeah, "breaking in" is a term that comes to mind, because I want to groan and pull a pillow over my head when I look at the men I've dated recently.
The other setback is my physical appearance at work, which seems to be the only place I actually encounter men. Now, I have a fair complexion, and it doesn't really lend itself to not wearing makeup- I have rings under my eyes, and blond eye lashes and eye brows, which are basically invisible. All in all, I look like a corpse without makeup on. But at the same time, when I'm slaving away all day in the 90 degree heat and shoveling manure, it doesn't make sense to wear makeup, does it? My hair is a lost cause- it is curly, and the humidity here is ridiculous. Styling it is pointless, and just takes up 15 minutes in the morning I'd rather spend sleeping.
So there you have it, folks.... I'm too lazy to look good while doing manual labor, and I'm too border-line to pick up worthwhile men when I look like sh*t. ::)
I suppose if I get really desperate I can just wear some low-cut tank tops. That way the men will never notice that I smell like poop, my hair looks like I was shocked by an outlet, and my face looks two steps from the coffin. Hardy har har!!
LOL.
Spectrum.
Re:Timing of post-D relationships picadilly: Spec, your too funny.
Concentrat on the new job for now then maybe get back into the dating scene once your more established. I think your pushing to hard with the new job, new environment & you expect to start dating.
Chill. People, re: men, will flock to you once they get to know you... & maybe see you around town with your make-up on. :P
Re:Timing of post-D relationships jennyfromtheblock: Spectrum-
I know that you know that beauty is not all about "the outside" and I'm sure you're a knockout outside as well anyway. You are so intelligent and witty, I'm sure that shines through, even with all the poop flying. :) Maybe it's as simple as this: after being treated so less than you've deserved for so long you might be a little "unacustomed" to being open to being loved and treated like you deserve??!!
Maybe I'm wrong, but I think in your own time the apathy will dissolve and you will again feel ready to take the risk. You're tough and soft - that's probably the hardest way but it's also the best way to be!
Good luck to you!
Re:Timing of post-D relationships Discarded: Dang Spectrum
I have lived most of my life in the country and grew up on a ranch. As a matter of fact I guess I can say I'm still living on the ranch since I had to move back in with my parents. Haven't you learned that the country boys find nothing sexier than a woman in the Cow Barn???? HAHA
Seriously though, I love seeing women out and about the ranch. They dress so odd at times you just have to laugh. Good things can lead from it and who wants a woman who can't get out and get dirty every once in awhile? Go figure I love country women and married a city gal, guess some things can be corrected. I'll take the manure over make-up anyday. Shows character and a down to earth person who can get out there and do things with the rest of us.
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Re:Timing of post-D relationships Spectrum: Ahh yes, but AM I a country woman??
Yes, I do farm chores and toss hay bales... but then I cozy up to an unabridged version of "Wuthering Heights" or "The Count of Monte Cristo" afterwards.
I grew up in a family where my dad (a violin-playing physics and industrial engineering major from MIT who cherished Masterpiece Theater and was class president) built home-made telescopes and attempted cold fusion on the kitchen counter.
Ingrained in my psyche is a love for those who appreciate culture, mathematics and science as much as I was taught to, and I'm afraid that not just any ordinary cowboy will do! I will sadly admit that I was tragically bothered when my last aspiring romeo, who was a very well-read history buff, admitted that he hated math so completely that he actually REFUSED to calculate his own tips (he used a tip card). I mean, come on folks! How hard is it to shift the decimal point over once and multiply times 2?!?!
Enough grousing......
The truth is, I'm just putting off the inevitable. I like to b*tch heartily before settling into any task I find arduous or unpleasant, and dragging the hide through the marshes to lure the bloodhounds definitely falls into that category. :p
Spectrum.
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