Re:Got Served Today Discarded: Thats just it though, Can I be happy with her? She has totally destroyed the marriage with her actions. I will not go back into a marriage where I cannot be happy, it would just end up being destroyed again at a later date putting the kids through all of it again. TRUST is such a huge problem to overcome, and I have no idea how to go about it. I have no idea what she can possibly do to earn the trust she has destroyed. Thats why I'm just giving it time. See if i can trust her again, and see if she truly is committed to being together which I still doubt. Honestly I just don't know if it's even worth the effort to try, but I am going to give it time to find out.
Re:Got Served Today ChrisJane: Doc, you have a big heart. Protect it!
I can't imagine giving up all she had and for what?
You can still be a GREAT dad without her. Your kids are lucky.
You should have no trouble finding someone to share time with. May not be DD's though ;)
Re:Got Served Today DOC: Thanks CJ. I'm trying to survive but it hurts so damn much. I feel as if she's out having a ball while I'm miserable. I brought life into this world and was there for the birth. Watching my children born was so special. How could she not love me when our treasures our half of me? I just can't understand.
Re:Got Served Today cloud: Doc,
Was it completely out of the blue that she wanted a divorce?
Wasn't there anything in the past that would make you think that it would all lead to this?
Re:Got Served Today DOC: NO, it's not completely out of the blue. She felt trapped before as if she missed out on being young. She says she never got to be her age. We had children at 19. We went to counceling together and things were better but we made the mistake of not going due to conflicting schedules. We just grew apart. I didn't know how serious it was or I would have tried something more. Now I fear it is too late. "I'm not in love anymore", "I've been emotionally abused" and all that stuff.
What do I do? The more I tried the further she became. She has a resentment that I have kept her from happiness. I don't even know the person she has become. She was the kindest most gentle person to everyone before and now I am an enemy.
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