I need help olepiney: Let me start off by telling you my story. About three years ago I contacted an ex girlfriend from high school via e-mail. In those e-mail I stated that I still cared for her even though it had been over 15 years since I had seen her. Everything I told her was a lie and we never had any physical contact. Three months ago my wife found these e-mails. I was served with divorce papers 6 days ago. I thought we had reconciled, but she say's she can never ever trust me agian. My whole life is ending all because of one stupid mistake. We have a beautiful 4 year old child together. Tommorow I start counseling alone. She refuses to go with me. I also started taking anti-depressants. I can't seem to make it alone. I have prayed and I have turned it over to my Lord and Savior. I need your prayers. I need help.
Re:I need help fisherman: Seems like an awful harsh decision on her part...
I'm guessing there were significant trust issues preceeding the discovery of the emails...
Your's is a difficult situation, who knows why we do the things we do sometimes... I made the mistake of looking up an ex-gf one time when I was dating another girl. I had no ill-intentions other than to give her a call and see how life was treating her... I no longer had romantic feelings at all for her - otherwise I wouldn't have broken up with her... But what it boiled down to was that we were really good friends, then we dated for a couple years, then parted ways. I had a significant histroy with the girl in that we did a lot together and sure, I had a sense of loss when I could no longer talk about fraternity parties and exams with someone... So I lost that chapter of my life...
I think if your wife really loves you she will definitely come around - don't push her and let the process occur on it's own.
Re:I need help olepiney: Thank You. I will do anything to stop this divorce from happening. She says she just wants "peace". I have given her everything in life anyone could want. I think I may have loved her to much. My heart is broken. I just wish it all could end. I wish i could wake up from this horrible dream.
Re:I need help fisherman: olepiney,
I think your situation has hope.
And I think the most important thing is to give her time. Actions are going to speak much louder than words... Just focus on being a good father.
Re:I need help cloud: I agree.
For better or worse, the divorce process takes time. Lawyers have to met with, paperwork drawn, decisions made, decree reviewed and signed, etc.
There's time for any unbalanced emotions on her end to calm some and she may see things in a different light.
Keep going to the counseling because it's good for you and also a good sign to your wife that you're committed to improving yourself.
Cloud
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