Wife Left....because she is a lesbian frostymxz01: The title says it all, married 7 years and all of a sudden my wife starts being withdrawn, just sitting home on her computer late every night for 2-3 months. Come to find out she was spending time on support boards for lesbians, chatting with lesbians etc... I dont think she ever cheated on me, because she was always home right after work but I still feel betrayed.
This is by far the worst kick in the B*lls I have ever taken, thats for sure. I am 32 she is 29, we both had lots going for us (and still do) but I just cant believe I have to start over again. How does anyone learn to trust anyone again?
I cannot help but think there is something I did, or could have done. I am so p*ssed at her....what really gets my goat is that she claims this was swirling around inside of her for 4 years, and she wasnt in love with me for about the same length of time.
Is there any people out there that are not all messed up? Anyone else out there experience this? is it common?
Frosty
Re:Wife Left....because she is a lesbian Lumpy: Dear Frosty,
I can't imagine that this is common. I believe I've seen a few posts regarding straight wives and closeted gay husbands, but not the reverse. I know this has to be one hellava blow. Did you ever see any indications of this before? Maybe she's just curious/confused. Does she feel that she's been living a lie in terms of her sexuality? I don't even know where to begin with this. My heart truly goes out to you. I can only suggest therapy to try and sort out your trust issues. Stay Sane.
Re:Wife Left....because she is a lesbian frostymxz01: Lumpy,
There were some potential indicators that I really didnt recognize...like sometimes she would point out cute girls in case I had not seen them...at least thats what I thought?
She has been gone for a while now, and I go to therapy weekly...but I just dont get it, and never will I guess.
I just wish she had said something 4 years ago...I want a family (I have no kids) and now I have to start over when I thought it would be right around the corner, I really didnt want teenagers around when I am 60 and of course who the hell knows where I am headed now.
Man am I tired.
Re:Wife Left....because she is a lesbian sacoderisa: A blessing in disguise that's what it is....you see, i know is hard to take that she left and the situation how she did it. However, about not having kids with her, think what would have happened if you had kids with her?? What the situation would be in that case?....Don't you think you will be better off with someone that will stay by your side, and that will take care of the kids? Just think about that, and it should make sense, at least to me it does. I got a lil one, I love her to death, I am just sad that she don't get to see her family togheter when she grows up..
