Re: Dammed the ones... tirisfal: [quote author=monkiebutt link=topic=36012.msg382809#msg382809 date=1160678147">
Back to the financial side, 50/50 should be no child support. Each person has the same opportunity in life to to make their life better without sucking the other party dry. It cost each party the same to rasie the kids no matter what gender you are. If one party is making more that is probably because they are working harder and still raising kids half time too. If the party who not making as much but has 50% custody well work smarter and harder, is it easy hell no.
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I strongly disagree with this statement. One person is not necessarily making more money then the other because they work harder. I know people who bust their asses just to get paid squat while others sit on their asses and make much more money.
Responsible parents do what it takes to support their children.
Re: Dammed the ones... monkiebutt: [quote author=worchid76 link=topic=36012.msg383700#msg383700 date=1160790059">
even at 50/50 there is child support if the other spouse makes more money that you. if I wanted we can go to the judge with the fact that he ccan and has been able to make 73k a year.
if this person was unemployed like he said and not earning anything living off his savings then how in the hell is he able to add 5k in just 6 months in his account.
I would never be the kind to try to clean anyone out but it is not fare that I'm drowming here while he is taking salsa lessons and having fun yet claiming to be broke.
50/50 or not >:(
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Re: Dammed the ones... monkiebutt: [quote author=worchid76 link=topic=36012.msg383700#msg383700 date=1160790059">
even at 50/50 there is child support if the other spouse makes more money that you. if I wanted we can go to the judge with the fact that he ccan and has been able to make 73k a year.
if this person was unemployed like he said and not earning anything living off his savings then how in the hell is he able to add 5k in just 6 months in his account.
I would never be the kind to try to clean anyone out but it is not fare that I'm drowming here while he is taking salsa lessons and having fun yet claiming to be broke.
50/50 or not >:(
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Re: Dammed the ones... monkiebutt: You wrote:
even at 50/50 there is child support if the other spouse makes more money that you. if I wanted we can go to the judge with the fact that he ccan and has been able to make 73k a year.
if this person was unemployed like he said and not earning anything living off his savings then how in the hell is he able to add 5k in just 6 months in his account.
I would never be the kind to try to clean anyone out but it is not fare that I'm drowming here while he is taking salsa lessons and having fun yet claiming to be broke.
50/50 or not
Worchid... How do you not know he is not receiving money from friends or family plus I am sure he is on unemployment? Most people who go through divorce do this. I am not defending him but i have read some of your posts. You agreed on 50/50. I would have to guess you both believe it is in the best interests to the kids to raise the kids 50/50 which means to me if you agreed to this your ex must be a great dad and have a good heart. Not many guys take on that responsiblity and not many want it after a divorce. They would rather give all the custody to the woman pay her off and go out to play. I don't think your ex is as bad of a guy as you say. I am sure he messed up at times but hey we all do. Not one of us in here has not.
Ok so... maybe he made good money, maybe he is on unemployment because something bad at his job happend etc.... so now he is a single parent like you used to making good money and now trying to take care of your kids. You were used to probably being taken care of financially and now your not. Now it is up to you not him.
Don't ask me why but I have followed some of your post, your screen name got me I guess, I like it.... Anyway you left him and both agreed on 50/50 and you agreeing new what that means. Means there is usually no child support or very little. Sounds like he made ok money in the past but not now, he is unemployeed as you say and I am sure not by his choice. It is not fair to go after someone on previous income just because someone made that in the past and expect them to pay on that previous income for future child support for 18 years etc...on a 50/50 case at that. You gave him 50% custody because he must be a great dad or why else would you do that. So again this tells me he must be somewhat of a good guy and not a dead beat. I say leave him a lone. You wanted out you got out because you think you were unhappy because of him and I think different. I have my theory put together from your previous posts I have read, ask nicely and I might share it with you.
Call me a Baboon :)
Re: Dammed the ones... worchid76: Hey Babbon!!!
Who R U? Talking like you know me or something. I have posted here yes but not so much that anyone has claimed something like you have said. Anyway. This inot the whole story no. Yes I agreed to 50/50 but at the same time I do think he is responsable for some finanial responsability. We share a lot of the cost. So no it is not like I'm out to get him.
By the ay He kept all of was in the house including things h had gotten me for the kitchen and such. Lawyers were trying to get me to go for hi 401 and I said no. the fact is everyone has to show a financial affidavit before getting divorce. he to this day refuses to provid it. If he is not making any money then he should have no problem proving it, right!!!
