Maybe I am overthinking.... ATLGIRL777: Ever since I moved in to my house the ex has been calling me and texting me everyday. Being very kind and caring, it's really wierd. Last night even mentioned coming over for dinner and ummm.....well sex. Saying how there will never be anyone like me, and that I am doing so well ect. Told me he really misses me and wants us to start to get closer.
So I am trying not to get my hopes up, I would really love to try to work things out BUT I just don't know how to take any of this. :-\ I also know that if he were to want to work things out it would mean a lot of counseling and changing or growing up really on his part. Not sure if he will ever do that! This whole post probably sounds stupid on my part and makes me look weak. Who knows?? ::)
Re: Maybe I am overthinking.... RSGinATX: He had a chance to work on it before, right? Without hurting you so much to do it. He thought he could find a better life without you, no matter how special you may truly be. Now, he sees life isn't how he saw in his fantasy and thinks he'd rather live the life he had. Once, -you- were his fantasy...now he's just willing to settle for you. Kinda puts you in a postion of settling too...seems that it would be hard for such a life to live up to the golden memories of before. Of course, its still possible to have a good life together..so long as you both understand that its a -new- life and shouldn't be approached as a reforging of your original marriage. Both of you are drastically different people than when you first said I DO...even totally different from what you were when it was first thought I DON'T. When making your decisions, scrap your memories and ask yourself if you want THIS man that's now before you.
Re: Maybe I am overthinking.... LostTeacher: i think that you follow your heart.
it's your decision. and it's what do you want??
ran into my ex the other day for the first time in months. and i actually had the guts to go up to him and his brother, and have a conversation with him...like we were just pals and nothing more.
to be honest...i had the butterflies...but for the first time, i don't think they were the love ones...just the nervous ones.
today he emailed me, and told me i looked good...that he liked my hair the way i had it, and that it really looked like i had lost weight.
it made me feel good....really good damn it!!
but would i want to be with him?? i don't think so. i am a different person now. i want different things in my life. and i know he is very the same, even after all this time.
but you go with your heart....look at how many people marry one another more than one time...or make changes in their lives and find love again.
LT
Re: Maybe I am overthinking.... ATLGIRL777: Thank you for the responses guys. I really appreciate them. Truth is I am really happy by myself right now and starting to get back some self worth. I just don't think I am ready to get in a relationship right now, with him or any one else for that mater. I guess if he really wants me he will have to be patient and wait until I am ready hell it's been 10 months already.
Part of me thinks he is only doing this because the holidays are coming up and he wants us to play "family" for them. Not going to happen, he walked away from his family last December 9th. >:(
