Update on my situation- I finally stod up for myself faraday: Yes, I did it- and I then went in the bathroom and threw up.... ::)
He just pushed me too far- everyone has been wondering why I won't get angry- well I wouldn't because I felt his anger and hurt was justified by what I did to him even if it was unintentional- well I had enough
I told him that it sucked that he was so concerned with the OW feelings but had no thought to what he told me and how it hurt me, that I was through hanging on to every scrap he threw to me- and I asked him what last week was about and he said...I was too lonely....well f*ck you buddy- I am lonely too you know.
So I told him that when he got his head on straight and "found" himself which is his current reason- that it may be too late- our daughter is already pissed at him and me, well I love him and it hurts but damn it I deserve someone who loves me and appreciates me and spoils me the way I do them
I told him that I was done feeling bad about what happened, that it was time for him to proove himself- that I deserved respect and love, and someone to suprise me with affection and little things and all the other stuff he denies me but gives to others- and when he said no one would want me or make me happy but him- I said think again, cause there is someone somewhere who will love me and appreciate what I do and be romantic and caring for me, and be caring for my daughter (though they will also understand about her father and her relationship, I don't want anything to interfere in that one)
And then I went upstairs to bed and threw up- but I did it
Did I do the right thing? I think so, but now he refuses to even look at me- I don't want this to get nasty
Re: Update on my situation- I finally stod up for myself td7629: Yes Far, you did do the right thing. You do deserve to be with someone who will love you and care for you. I know it was probably really hard to express your feelings to him but at least he knows where you stand now. The ball is in his court now to decide what he wants to do. I am glad to hear that you stood up for yourself and let him know that you are not going to tolerate his crap anymore. Good job!
Re: Update on my situation- I finally stod up for myself Feel: I'll bet you, you felt great after you got that off your chest...
You can't keep running away and being afraid of how you feel he might feel if you yell at him straight.
Far, you have to remember that you made a choice to tell him how you felt and you can't take that choice back, you can't take back whats done. You can avoid things but only for so long and you can feel bad about saying what you said and now the best thing is to work on what you said and deal with that now and your feelings....
You can't worry about him not even looking at you now the thing he is he knows now where you stand, BUT you have to keep your ground, you have to not soften up when he looks at you with those puppy dog eyes ( i know it's hard and there might me that pasionate love session again, but it's just for that moment and remember you have to still stand your ground) he will make you feel great, but remeber he is just trying to get you up against that wall again!
I know you love him, as we all loved our other halves... man I am still wondering whats up in my situation. But you have to get your brain to do the thinking!
Luv ya!
Re: Update on my situation- I finally stod up for myself faraday: I am trying Feel! Really I am- I emailed you- check it out-
I hope I am strong enough to come across for myself and my daughter- it did feel good in a way but in a way it felt like I was cutting my feet out from under me- I mean that is it you know? And still when I look at him it hurts so much that he chose her over his family cause that is how I see it no matter what else he said- he chose another woman and her child over his own
Re: Update on my situation- I finally stod up for myself Feel: ya I know.... it hurts like crazy, but keep strong, this is affecting your daughter.... talk to her, keep the lines of communication open...
I had a call from my ex this morning.... asking me how I am feeling.
WTF..... that makes me wonder a lot of things, but I have a new life now and as much as I want to wonder why, I have to stand my ground and believe that I don't need him in my life someone who chose another women over his son and me.... (reason I say his son is because he left with her and never even called most of the time to see how he was)
Far, I know you can do it.... try to keep your relationship with his family nutral and look for another place even a basement apartment or flat... should be cheaper instead of a house!
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