What to do? resengen: OK so I have a dilemma. It depends on whose point of view you look at.
This weekend my SO and I are going pumpkin picking. I am bringing my daughter. Because of travel patterns and time tables I may have to bring my SO with me to get my daughter. My STBXW of course will be present when I get my daughter. My SO and STBXW have never met, and I really dont want them to. Now Do I bring her with me and run the risk of a scene? Do I drop her off at the store while I get my daughter and pick her up on my way out? I dont like that Idea either. I don't want my SO to feel insignificant in my life and left out of it, made to feel like crap.
I have been seperated for 2 years. I am just waiting for my court date to finish it out. Do I hurt my SO feeling or do I bring her with me and risk hurting my STBXW feelings or run the possibility of causing a scene? ANy one have any advice? Thanks for tuning in....
Re: What to do? mariher: Trying to look at it from your STBXW's perspective, maybe she wouldn't like to be surprised with something like that. Maybe you could try talking to her about the fact that there might be a "chance" that you will be picking up your daughter with your SO only b/c of the time frame, etc...
If she starts freaking out, well, there's only so much you can do. I mean, it has been 2 years already, it's not like this was something recent. She needs to have moved on already and apparently you have moved on so it shouldn't be up to her whether you come to pick up your daughter with your SO anymore. I think you should talk to her about it, you just might be surprised that she'll be okay with it, but maybe not. Just my opinion.
Re: What to do? icwtsmnl: i say, after 2 years of separation, just show up. you don't need to warn or get permission from your ex. you have every right to have your SO with you. just leave her in the car. they don't need to meet.
