will the venting ever stop?? icwtsmnl: as wonderful as the people are here, i want to not need this board anymore. i don't want to have so much unwelcome emotion that i have to vent it all here several times a week. i know, no one wants to really need ojar, but this is a vent.
i am fed up, i am confused, i am hurt, I am weak, and I don't know where to go with myself. I want out. I WANT OUT.
Re: will the venting ever stop?? sosad05: icw...it sounds like the relationship has been causing you much much more distress then good. I think you know in your heart what you need to do. When I was with my xh, a good friend of mine told me that my problem was that I couldnt get over the "hump" of leaving him. She said once I got past the hard part Id be ok. And...finally I was. I had to maintain no contact. I had to see a therapist. I had to journal. But, I knew the relationship was BAD for me and ultimately making me miserable. I knew it was not healthy for me and I HAD to get out of it.
I'm on OJAR quite often so the venting still goes on. But, its healthy venting now. Its not about my constant misery w/ him. Its about working through the grief of a long-time relationship. Like a death.
When its time, you'll do whats best for you. Good luck. Lots of ((((HUGS))))
Re: will the venting ever stop?? icwtsmnl: i know you're right. it has to end. i just wish i didn't work with him.
even if things are partially my fault and i'm too demanding, the bottom line is that i get very little emotional support or reassurance from him (he prefers defensiveness instead). and that kind of thing is important to me.
i just dread the pain and missing him.
