Feels like it's time saddad: I'm at day 71. I'm not interested in jumping into another serious relationship, but I do feel like I'm ready to talk to other women and maybe go out on a date.
I know there isn't a magic number, but is it too soon? I guess my concern is because we're still living together (damn housing market), plus the divorce isn't final.
Yet, under our circumstances (she's been with the OM for almost 5 months), I know that I no longer want to be with her.
So, too soon? Obviously I plan on being honest with people. Is anyone really going to want to get involved with someone in my situation?
Re: Feels like it's time 2be: Well, like you said: there is no magic number. Some people feel fine after 2 months, others don't do well for years afterwards. Just go and dip your foot in the dating pool, see how you feel. You really won't know if you're fully "over" your ex until you start dating again and see how interacting with another woman does to you.
Some things you can handle on your own and recover from... other aspects won't show themselves until you're dating someone else. Hence many folks' "rebound" relationships despite their best efforts not to rebound.
Good luck, and above all else have fun! Don't put too much pressure on yourself. There will be hits and misses. I went on dates with 4 different women before I found the wonderful gal I'm dating now.
Re: Feels like it's time chaotic: Day 71 and you're ready on Friday the 13th ;O I think it is too soon. You are still 35 hours 23 minutes and 49 seconds short of the requisite 1739 hours 39 minutes and 12 seconds required to truly be ready.
Just kidding. Get your @ss out there and have some fun. No pressure, just meet some new people. Everything will start falling into place.
Re: Feels like it's time clambakesX: So sad_dad, how ya doin'?
Re: Feels like it's time superwife: No one can tell you when the time is rght. Although, the fact that she has moved on indicates that you are well aware of the reality of the situation.
Just understand, that some people ask a lot of questions. Depending on what you are looking for (you said just dating), and depending on what the potential 'she' is looking for, she may ask a lot of questions, and be a little leery of the fact that you are still under the same roof, and that has only been 71 days (we're talking not even 3 months). I was once told 'wow, it is stil new' after I had been separated for a year. But I do agree that being honest is the best way to go.
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