Am i pathedic ? no more tears: Well here i am...Oct 14th 2006...the last time i seen her...Oct 14th 2005....posting on a breakup support site about it. Am i pathedic ? . Should a person be called weak for not " getting over it " after a damn year ? I know recovery times vary...but no contact after this long...wtf...why is she still on my mind? Exactly 1 year today...my god...life can be cruel.
Here is my story as if u care..brief story......but...the truth...and i know i will be judged..so please let me know ur honest opinion....
We met at our workplace....hit it off...and went on a date. She was 24 i was 22. She was divorced from an awful man...who never bothered our relationship....but gave her 2 kids. She had her tubes tied and could no longer bear children. I was 22 with no kids. Anyways at 1st the whole she had kids thing bothered me but the more and more we went out and had fun ( you know what i mean )...i feel head over heels for this chic. I did not want to be away from her...for more than a minute....
The feeling was mutual...well...i cannot say what what was going through her head...she is a female...but the next 5 years was awesome. Our relationship progressed into moving into a home toegether...i loved her kids like they was mine...and i wanted to call her my wife....but...
I was told she was cheating. enraged....i left her ....while i left her she was MIA.... ( missing in action )....so when i could not reach her.... i reached to a friend who was 10 years younger and obvioulsy more attractive than her....yea i cheated....when ur other half refuses to speak to you for over a month and u hear she is cheating...wtf is a man supposed to do ?
Well she finally called and wanted to talk....and i flat out told her about the other girl but that i did still love her...So we met and talked about things and ended up reconcling. But after a couple weeks all i heard was how could u *uck around with that slut blah blah blah. I could never prove she cheated on me so i didnt press the other side of the story
Anyways i gave up a good job...my family and friends..everything i knew...to move with her almost 2000 miles away so she could be with her family and friends and for us to try anew. But...after 2 months of trying....i was sent home packing to nothing. And still to this day...All i have is nothing. She was my world...it is just so hard to this day to accept she is gone. Pathedic yea i know....Was me cheating ...when she was MIA....so wrong ? yea i guess so. But if i left the person i loved and refused to talk to them for a month...then hear they are seeing another...i wouldnt be shocked. Me and her are attractive ppl who have no problems in that dept.
I am 2000 miles away from her but would give my left nut just to hear her laugh. Im pathedic i know....but i need ur comments...good or bad...thanks
Re: Am i pathedic ? Rain_Gray: You're not pathetic for loving her. You had a very long and loving relationship, and you miss the good times. It sometimes can take years and much counselling to get over a relationship like that, especially when it ended so badly with so many unanswered questions.
Honestly I think she was trying to guilt trip you. It looks like she was looking for a way out of the relationship and she didn't want to look like the bad guy. Technically if you accused her of cheating and then left her and you had no contact for a month, I wouldn't necessarily call what you did with that younger woman "cheating". But that is just my opinion and I'm sure a lot of other people will think the exact opposite.
I need to stress to you that you are definitely not pathetic for still being hurt and affected by these feelings. It took me years to get over my exboyfriend. You're not alone.
Re: Am i pathedic ? baffled!: The pain of losing someone doesn't just go away - so time isn't always an issue when it comes to getting over an ex.
It takes time for the shock to wear off - but the thoughts of the good times will always be there... you can't just train yourself to forget things you enjoyed, ya' know?
When you fill your life with new experiences - and as the voids of the past are filled... your ex will become more of a memory.
So - a year is no problem in my book... spend this next one building, learning and growing - you will be cool...
Re: Am i pathedic ? confused101: The only thing pathetic about this thread is the spelling of pathetic in your subject line.
Other than that, you're about as normal as the rest of us. Which really isn't saying much, but it's better than nothing.
Re: Am i pathedic ? Rain_Gray: Well that's really what I meant by "Time will help heal you".... Time won't make you forget anything... forgetting isn't what you should do. Remember the good times fondly, learn from the bad times, and time is what is going to take the edge off... it will dull the pain and make it easier to handle. It won't make the pain go away of course.
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