Re: A letter came in the mail flyaway: newts, they've been together for 3 years already. It seems as though it's a long term, permanent thing. Although lately, we've seen personal testamonies of how karma often comes back to bite folks in the rear...
I really don't care if this happens or not. My first concern is my girls. I really don't want them suffering another loss in their young lives. So, for their sake, I hope it works out for them. Really. I do. I certainly don't want him back. ::)
I have been tossing around the idea of letting her know his history with the marriage thing, though. I know I don't owe her, and it would be more ummm sweeter to let her figure it out herself, but I kinda wanted to warn her. :o
he was cheating on me 6 months into the marriage, and I stayed with him just over 10 years.
He insists that she knows all his dirty laundry. But I wonder. I think that anything I say might be discredited simply because "I'm the evil ex wife who drove him to his life of desperate secrecy and deception". ::)
I don't know....what do you guys think?
I think she's being sincere. The tone of the letter was very sincere.
from all my limited dealings with her....she's come across as very nice, actually. Of course, she's in no way as hawt as me, but we can't fault her for that. :D
Re: A letter came in the mail newts: Fly, I would say that he is checting on her too... she would never admit this to you.
I like that your best interest is for your child, that is very honorable.
I would just say smile and don't respond.
A letter came in the mail flyaway: From none other than the OW. :o
In it, she basically describes how the emotional affair was born. And then the last page of it, she tells me that she feels that she has wronged me and my family terribly. That she feels badly about it, and hoping that some day, I can find it in my heart to forgive her.
I need to wait this one out. I cannot respond. Not till the shock of it has worn off. I'm not shocked at the revelations....I already knew the facts. But I'm shocked that she feels badly. My stbx doesn't. Of course. But women usually are a bit more sensitive I think, as far as concience goes.
I think I will write her back eventually. Don't know when. I need to wait.
flyaway
Re: A letter came in the mail ace1234: Hey flyaway,
Wow, that's interesting huh? I wonder if that happens frequently to people with some kind of conscience?? She obviously doesn't have much of one if she was fooling around with a married guy, but...
I think you're right to take some time with that one.
Good luck!
l8r
Re: A letter came in the mail MadorSad: You are a rock Fly. 8)
I'm happy to call you a friend ;D
