The grass is always greener. kimberly: I have come to realize so many married people feel the grass is always greener on the other side. So many of my friends and family members have left their spouse (including mine) to find that "soul mate" or perfect ,passionate relationship. What they don't seem to comprehend is that is not going to last with ANYBODY (I don't care how suited) without some effort! Marriage is work and sacrifice!!! Nothing stays perfect and passionate forever unless there is some major communicating and empathy. So many people fantisize the day away about what it would be like with so and so. You know what?.......It'll start out all hot and heavy, can't stop thinking about eachother mind blowing sex etc............ Then one day an argument pops up then another. Next thing you know oops someone gets pregnant-there goes the romance!
If couples put more energy into fufilling eachother and trying to do things to please one another and less time sulking and fantasizing about starting something with some person at work(who is probably just as flawed as their current partner) marriages just might last!
People all have flaws it's up to us to decide what flaws we will tolerate and which ones we can't. You could spend a lonely lifetime searching for that blissful love. Don't get me wrong it can exist but you have to MAKE it blissful. The grass isn't always greener and as my poor ex is slowly realizing the novelty of a new infatuation wears off unbelievably fast(poor baby). Hmmm maybe I wasn't that bad after all......maybe I am only human.
Re: The grass is always greener. drowned: Well said torn-n-2, and what you said holds truth. Any relationship takes work, committment, communication skills you name it. Is grass in fact greener on the other side? Does that blissful love you write about exist? I don't think I can answer that now but when you feel it, experience it, and live it.....then that answer will surface. I am all for things good, and I hope too experience that oh so nice word "bliss" one day.
drowned
