Re: Question about your "weekend off"... alonewith2: [quote author=tara link=topic=36502.msg388588#msg388588 date=1161547832">
It doesn't matter what you do on your "off" weekend (with obvious criminal exceptions). But if you want to go to a bar with friends, stare into space, have a casual fling, play basketball, attend a seminar on the earned income tax credit -- that's your business, not your ex's.
If you switch -- depending on what hardship your ex went through to accommodate the switch, it may be "nice" if you call and ask if she wants you to take them, but it's no means required and may even cause its own hardship (especially if, as you say, they've already got plans).
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I agree with Tara on this one. I've switched weekends millions of time. Once the switch is agreed to, she should have an alternate emergency back up plan. It's like agreeing to take a shift at work, if after you agree, you can't make it, then it's up to you to find your own replacement, it doesn't go back to the original worker...
I do think it's appreciated to offer help if something does fall through though, because technically it was your original weekend. But if you do help, then she shouldn't assume that you'll take them the next two weekends either...
IMO...
Re: Question about your "weekend off"... Fendann: I agree, AW2. I'm not saying that it would have been impossible for me to take the kids back (which is why I stayed in the States rather than returning to Spike's house), but since it was my weekend off, what did it matter that my plans had changed? I really wish I had never answered the phone in the first place...
