My sister's done it again... yella: She's off and on with probably the biggest a$$hole to walk the face of the earth, and when I say that, I mean it to the fullest extent. The guy's played her for at least the past 14 years, and still does it. Oh, and she's got 2 kids by him... both conceived and born while he was "cheating" on her.
Basically, she's his stand in when he has no one else, and she totally lets him. It's getting to the point where I'm about to knock her on her ass just to get her to wake the f*ck up! >:(
About an hour or so ago, I get a call from my mom... "I have to tell you something, but you have to swear you won't tell your sister that you know." Ok, this can't be good. So, I swear...
C (my 11 year old niece), walked in on my sister and this slimeball's sex session, in the middle of the day, with the kids at home. My sister told C to watch J (1 year) while she went upstairs. J's been sick for the past month or so, and he started crying, so C brought him up to see his mom... opened the door... and saw the two of them naked on the bed. My sister didn't even know it. She never saw C standing there.
C called my mom is tears and told her what happened, but didn't say anything until my mom swore that she wasn't going to tell. Then the words came... "I don't want another sibling. I know where babies come from, and I'm already hated here. I don't want to be here."
Just after my mom called me, I called there to talk to C, and my sister answered the phone. Because I help C with her homework, it was easy to get her on the phone, and when she was alone, she'll let everything out.
The good news is that C sees a counsellor, which I pushed her to see, so she has someone objective to talk to. I feel awful for her otherwise since she absolutely hates this guy.
This is the same guy who a year ago, let my sister and her 2 daughters stranded at a movie theatre because he didn't have enough money for all 3 of them.
My mom's excuse for all of this is my sister's low self esteem, which I can see to a point, but after 14 years, enough is enough already. My sister is someone who won't help herself, if her own death stared her right in the face. I love my sister, but only because she's blood. My respect for her is gone now. I'm all done with this sh!t. >:(
If I hear one more time how she has low self esteem, I'm blowing up. I just can't take it anymore. Grow a GDMF backbone and do something right for a change! >:(
Re: My sister's done it again... Plucky: [quote"> If I hear one more time how she has low self esteem, I'm blowing up. I just can't take it anymore. Grow a GDMF backbone and do something right for a change! [/quote">
We have the same family, I swear.
How heartbreaking for that poor little girl. To feel like she's hated and to be uncomfortable in what is supposed to be her home. It's frustrating for you, I know, because you can't really do anything to help. It's that helplessness that fuels the anger - on top of the obvious reasons.
I wish I had an answer for you. My heart really goes out to those babies.
Re: My sister's done it again... yella: Thanks, Plucky.
I'm doing all I can for her. I told her to tell her therapist everything she saw, and how she feels. I feel my sister needs to know what she saw, but she's such a stubborn freakin mule that we all know she'll just yell at her.
I think the best plan right now is to see if another family session can be sheduled (which I'm sure now it will), and spill the news then. At least my sister can't really yell, and will be forced to explain what C saw. At least I hope so.
I talk to her as much as I can because I know she needs someone, and it's because of me that she has this therapist, so that feels better, but still.
It's just sick how much of a jerk my sister can be.
