Re: Playing with a 5 yo in the bath big_daddy: My dad made me shower with him when I was a little kid. I hated it. I guess I was like 5-7 when this was happening. He would also make comments about private parts (nothing sexual mind you)...but I dreaded shower time at my dads every time I was there. Thank god I was only there every other weekend. I wonder from time to time if there was inappropriateness in his actions...if it was some sort of something I really don't even want to think about. I doubt it, but I wonder.
That being said...I don't shower with or in front of my kids, for that very reason. I know the discomfort it caused me. Now my door is always unlocked, and they'll come in and ask me questions...no biggie. I won't even shower with my own son (7)...never did. I've stayed in there while he was taking a bath and played boats with him and stuff...but I'd never be naked with him. The thought of some other dude taking a shower with him....not on your f'n life. I would have very serious personal and moral issues with any man willing to get naked with some boy who isn't his own blood in the tub. Hell...I'm not sure its even 100% okay with your own son.
I played with my daughters while they were in the tub until about 3 or 4 (youngest now is only 2.5 but she only takes showers)...after that, it was not entirely comfortable for me. So I stopped.
And Katelyn....there does come a point when it becomes necessary to draw a line of sorts, but I believe it is different for every kid. My son's mom quit showering with him once he started to take a little bit to keen of an interest in her body. He had just hit 5 if I remember correctly. It became unfortable for her. At some point you have to help them understand privacy and discretion. When that happens is basically just a matter of your own instinct.
Re: Playing with a 5 yo in the bath CDNgurl: [quote author=big_daddy link=topic=36508.msg394902#msg394902 date=1162322837">
My son's mom quit showering with him once he started to take a little bit to keen of an interest in her body. [/quote">
I heard somewhere that it's ok as long as the children don't show any sort of discomfort or embarassement about it.... but let me say this: I remember being in the shower with my dad, I might have been 7? I also CLEARLY remember these red swim things he had on. I'm SO glad I remember that, and not something else....
Instinct does play a big part - but some people, like my ex, have no instinct whatsoever. I did say "Does his DAD know about that??" He says "Probably". ... I thought to myself "probably not!!"
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Re: Playing with a 5 yo in the bath katelyn: Thanks big_daddy I think you're right about all of it. My son has never paid any attention or asked any questions or been curious at all about my body. I guess that's why I've never thought a thing about him jumping in the shower with me with his boats, usually its only for 2 min. until I'm done though (like halfway thru my shower).
But I do agree, I don't want him remembering mom naked, lol. It's time. I just hate it, it means we're officially past the baby stage and onto the pre-teen years. :'( And it really is a pain in the ass to run and hide if he happens to bound into my bedroom while I'm changing. It just seems retarded. Oh well, it's for the best I'm sure.
Thanks for the advice.
Re: Playing with a 5 yo in the bath Suddenly Single: Does she have to take a bath? How bout a shower?? It might be quicker and easier??
We used a timer for my SS - we would start the shower for him and put a timer in the bathroom - he could play until the "DING" and then my husband would go up and help him out or me with the cleaning business. Now that is is a few months passed 5 he does a lot of cleaning on his own and my husband just helps with rinsing.
Re: Playing with a 5 yo in the bath tara: [quote author=katelyn link=topic=36508.msg394952#msg394952 date=1162326998"> And it really is a pain in the ass to run and hide if he happens to bound into my bedroom while I'm changing.
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I wouldn't bother running and hiding -- I think that draws more attention to it than anything else. I'd just usher him out with a "please give Mommy some privacy" -- that puts the focus less on the nudity and more on the "if you barge in without knocking the house better be on fire" part of it.
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