Help TLK: I know my story was way too long...I will give the condensed version.
We separated two years ago November 5th, our divorce was final this summer. He left me for another woman and our friends stopped talking to me. I still cry everyday and wish it was different. I wish this was no longer on my heart...looking for advise.
Re: Help flyaway: TLK....I want you to know that there is no set "timeline" for your grief. This is real, it is painful, and you take as long as you need to process this.
Keep posting, find women in your local area that can be trusted, are wise, and supportive, and try not to neglect you. Do little things that help you feel better, ok?
hugs,
flyaway
Re: Help TLK: Flyaway
Thanks for the reply! I have been forced to see and talk to her by my ex. He said if they are to stay together, he has no choice but to involve her in everything. Everyone I talk to tells me that is none of her business, yet she is still involved, especially when it comes to my son. Every time I see her it opens the wound up again. When I didn't see or hear her voice it was easier. I asked him nicely, I have been mean, and nothing changes. I just gave up and continue to go through this hell. Not a day goes by that I don't cry or think about it.
Re: Help flyaway: You know, it was really strange for me tonight. When I came around to my ex husband's home, my youngest *5 years* asked me to come see her room. After checking with the ex, I went upstairs with my girls. On the way up the stairs, I was subjected to copious amounts of pictures on the wall, depicting holidays, fun times, vacations, all with my girls, the OW, and my exhusband looking like the cutest little family. blech.
So you know, we all have triggers. Times where we feel angry, sad, and ready to pull hair. But my concern is that you seem to be camped in that one stage. I would suggest you find out from someone who is knowledgable whether or not you need more help than just an occasional bubble bath. ok?
I'll be fine tomorrow, but tonight, I am sad, and angry.
Flyaway
Re: Help TLK: How do you deal with the triggers? Yesterday when I saw her I looked right through her and did not even acknowledge that she opened her mouth. I still cried when I got home, tired of crying. I want to show him how happy I am without him. Tired of being stressed, left behind, used, and thrown away.
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