Re: Getting over physique. Can a bangin' personality make up for a non-bangin' b darkrose: I'm overweight, but I'm not like obese or anything. I am just a big guy..I have a solid frame.
People say I grow on them like a fungus..
I've dated women with all sorts of body types..and although I have my preferences, I'd say it plays little into what attracts me to them. I don't know..maybe I'm weird, the intellectual attraction happens first which then turns into physical attraction. I guess I try to look at the whole picture.
Getting over physique. Can a bangin' personality make up for a non-bangin' body? masterlow: I have met a girl. She has a great personality. We click on many levels. We have been hanging out as friends, but things are starting to progress.
My problem is that I am not completely attracted to her in a physical way. She has a beautiful face, but her body leaves me with much to be desired.
I know she is ready to move forward with the physical aspect of our relationship, as she told me this a couple nights ago. I basically said that in the aftermath of my break-up I wasn't ready for that...not true.
Truth is, I am ready. I'm actually pretty damn eager to get more intimate than just kissing + heavy petting. I just don't see myself getting that intimate with this particular girl.
Should I keep seeing her in hopes that her awesome personality will eventually shadow my shallow opinion of her looks?
Or should I try to slow things down and hope to maintain a plutonic friendship with her?
Re: Getting over physique. Can a bangin' personality make up for a non-bangin' body? down2basics: What is it about her physically that turns you off?
Re: Getting over physique. Can a bangin' personality make up for a non-bangin' body? chaotic: This is a tough issue.
If you slow down and turn it into a platonic relationship, you risk sounding shallow. But I think this is what you should do. If you are not physically attracted to her now, chances are, you may not be in 1 month, 2 months...etc.
If you try to step it up to a physical relationship and you still are not attracted to her, then you risk hurting her. Because at that point you will have been physical and then try to tone it down to a platonic relationship. That will not work.
I say go for the first option. If you know now that you are not physically attracted to her. Tone it down now. Better now than after you have tried to be physical with her.
Re: Getting over physique. Can a bangin' personality make up for a non-bangin' b YellowJacket: Everyone is different and only you will be able to answer for you. If you're having to ask the question, I'm guessing the answer is no.
I fear that the draw of sleeping with someone for the first time will cause you to believe you can get over it. Once you've been together physically, that draw won't be there anymore and your interest is likely to wane. It seems like the safest path is to not take the chance with her feelings.
If you feel like she's the type of woman that would rather know your honest feelings, you could talk about it with her and get her input.
