Re: Getting over physique. Can a bangin' personality make up for a non-bangin' b 2be: Yeah I would have to vote for backing off as well. If you feelings develop to a deeper level later on then great, but you will end up hurting her if you get intimate now. All in all it isn't a good idea to get intimate if you just don't have those feelings for her.
She might be a bit hurt now, but it's much better than her investing even more emotion into the relationship after intimacy... then you'll REALLY look like a jerk that was only out for one thing.
Re: Getting over physique. Can a bangin' personality make up for a non-bangin' b darkrose: I'm overweight, but I'm not like obese or anything. I am just a big guy..I have a solid frame.
People say I grow on them like a fungus..
I've dated women with all sorts of body types..and although I have my preferences, I'd say it plays little into what attracts me to them. I don't know..maybe I'm weird, the intellectual attraction happens first which then turns into physical attraction. I guess I try to look at the whole picture.
Re: Getting over physique. Can a bangin' personality make up for a non-bangin' b masterlow: [quote author=down2basics link=topic=36531.msg388886#msg388886 date=1161616579">
What is it about her physically that turns you off?
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It's a weight thing. She is not fat, but she is definitley what I would call "plump"; just a bit larger than "thick".
Her face is very very cute, though. She has great eyes and a great smile. When we are just talking and hanging out I find I am very very attracted to her. It's only when we start to fool around that I begin to notice her size.
This sucks, because I really really enjoy spending time with her. We have some great chemistry.
Re: Getting over physique. Can a bangin' personality make up for a non-bangin' b masterlow: It sounds like the average opinion is to try and keep things platonic.
I guess I can pull the "I'm not ready, the breakup is still too fresh on my mind, I don't want to rush into anything" card.
It's either that, or be brutally honest with her. I think it would be wrong of me to be upfront about my issues with her body type.
We are supposed to hang out tonight, and I'm pretty sure she is thinking/hoping that we make some physical headway tonight.
Maybe I should just give it a try. Maybe things will look/feel different once all the clothes are off. Maybe she will have some "moves" that will make me forget about her weight.
Then again...maybe not. I would hate to find her size causes an inability to perform on my part. That could hurt her, and I definitely don't want to do that.
Re: Getting over physique. Can a bangin' personality make up for a non-bangin' b pluscachange: Look, if you're not sure now, then "let's see how it pans out" isn't going to cut it. It might work one time, but as somebody else already said, after that initial rush of new relationship is over, you're going to notice, and notice big.
Don't put her through the pain man.
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