Re: this weekend allmusic76: This may sound like I'm playing the devil's advocate, but instead of silently putting up with things.... I'd try approaching him with your frustrations.
However, when you do it, try to remain as calm as possible. I've noticed that a lot of people consider "approach" to mean "attack" lol.
When I approach someone, my first comment is usually " I need your help with something."
At the very least, it usually grabs the person's attention.
Re: this weekend icwtsmnl: um, guys.....this was my unsent letter thread. :-\
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as usual, i don't know who this letter is for, me or him or someone who doesn't even exist?
I feel sick. i feel so unstable, so directionless. i know you have to feel comfortable with yourself first and the rest just falls into place, but how do you do that when things in your life just aren't going th way they should be?
All I want is to feel safe and wanted. not wanted for sex or keeping company. wanted for LOVE. i don't know what he feels. i often think about a phrase I read: Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all their heart. it's a good phrase. important concept. but how do i let go of what I expect in a loving relationship? and how do you know what you're supposed to let go and what expectations you have the right to hold on to?
what do i do about this job?
I'm sad, I'm scared, I'm lost. i don't want to be an adult anymore. I want to be taken care of, and for someone else to make these decisions. are my hormones out of whack? if I fake being happy, will that work?
i don't know how to believe in something that doesn't exist. Sad
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sorry about that... I'm just rehashing it then so we don't go off onto a tangent.
That third to last paragraph always kinda touched me in a way. To feel safe and wanted. I agree. I think we all want that. It's the safety that we feel. We all feel safe, until we don't. It's somewhat... odd.
Re: this weekend icwtsmnl: no problem. actually, when i reread what you and Crystal were discussing, i realize that your topic is quite relevant to my own issues. something i should listen to.
Re: this weekend allmusic76: no you are right tho....
this was for a letter for you.
Sometimes conversations have a life of their own... and we need to be more aware of where that happens.
It's hard enough to open up sometimes.
i actually thought about your post while I was sweeping my floors. Strangely, I found that the best advice I could give was sitting in my hand.
Getting past hard times is a lot like sweeping a messy floor. You can't do it all at once, you have to attack it methodically. If you rush or sweep to hard, you just swirl up the dust and make more of a mess. You have to slowly sweep with controlled strokes. The key word being controlled.
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