Re: I'm getting tired of this!!! yella: It's complicated... but the basic thing is that my mom picks up my kids for me from day-care to save me an hour in cost for each kid. She keeps them with her until I get there, and she's excellent at guilt trips. I don't mind helping my mom, but if I don't do something for my sister, I get hell for it.
Basically, it all falls back on my dear little sis having a "low self esteem", but trust me, she milks it for all it's worth.. my mother just freakin blind! >:( All my life I've played a backseat to a helpless, worthless sister. I've always dug her out of her own self made jams. And here I am again... ::)
All of it is placed on my shoulders because I'm the only one in this family who knows how to do anything, and get stuff done. I'm the only one who's freakin smart enough! >:(
All hell breaks loose when you don't do something for my sister. She takes it out on my mom, and my mom lets her.
Oh, and did I mention that when my sister was a kid, she had my mother's car stolen and torched... all because my mother told her at the ripe old age of 12 not to date some thug? Yeah, you read it right! She never even got a slap on the hand, but I leave an abusive husband, and I'm deemed damaged and I owe the world everything.
And people wonder why I want to leave, but because of my ex, I can't. >:( I'm screwed either way.
Re: I'm getting tired of this!!! alonewith2: I went through this same thing over the summer. I had to leave for work early to take my brother in, and then stay over extra to pick him up from work. I felt like I couldn't say no either because my mom would pick up or take my kids to/from daycare. Then that Friday happened when my mom picked up my brother from work, but didn't tell me, and she never picked up my kids....so I sat at work an extra half hour only to find out my kids were at daycare an hour past the time they should have been and the daycare should have closed already.
So I decided that stressing myself out to please my family wasn't worth the few bucks I was saving. I stopped taking my brother to work or picking him up. I arranged something different with the daycare (different hours that fit my schedule better) and have been a lot more stress free than this summer.
Re: I'm getting tired of this!!! yella: I wish I could do that, but I work almost an hour away from home, and our day-care closes at 5:30. She charges double the hourly rate for every 15 minutes you're late. I can't blame her, but that's a lot of money.
As it is, I get here a half hour to 45 minutes late just so I can take my son to his bus stop each morning, so I can't ask to leave early. They're already flexing enough for me. :-\
Someday.... maybe if I'm lucky, I can find a place near here that won't break my bank, and change the whole damn thing. But that's unlikely because the further north you go, and closer to Boston you get, the higher the living expenses. ::)
Re: I'm getting tired of this!!! fly: One day hopefully. Guilt frickin' sucks and I hate people who try and use guilt as a weapon!!! Ughhhhhhhhh it is one of my pet peeves. My mom does that, and my ex-husband did that.
I am sorry
