Re: What to do? idocsteve: [quote author=Lumpy link=topic=36546.msg389148#msg389148 date=1161634981">
I hate to say it but I kinda agree with Idoc.
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Ah, Lumpy....it's ok to agree with me!
Re: What to do? Lumpy: [quote author=Mo link=topic=36546.msg389159#msg389159 date=1161635455">
Thanks to both you guys for replying to me. It is hard to find an outside oppinion that is willing to actually say these things to you, unless your strangers. Sounds easy. Guess I just do it. I am a stay at home mom. No money of my own. I think one of the reasons I'm stumped what to do is that I have no funds of my own to begin the process so I'm unsure. Also, he is going to freak so I should leave but, I moved to CA from MA a few years ago with him, before the kids and I really have no where to go if I wanted to just leave. I figure I can't go too far anyway, certainly not back to MA. Am I right? I feel like such a big baby, not knowing what to do or having the resources to do it. I use to be so independent in every way. Talking to him is hard cause I don't want to do it in front of the kids but, if I wait until too late, he is buzzed. I'll quite whinning as soon as I know the clear steps I'm going to take to resolve this situation.
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I don't want to give you the wrong impression. It's not easy at all. Initially it will be one of the hardest things you've ever done. It's gonna be hard on him, hard on you and hard on the kids. But if your situation is as hopeless and as one-sided as you described it, it will get better eventually.
Re: What to do? Lumpy: [quote author=idocsteve link=topic=36546.msg389164#msg389164 date=1161635686">
[quote author=Lumpy link=topic=36546.msg389148#msg389148 date=1161634981">
I hate to say it but I kinda agree with Idoc.
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Ah, Lumpy....it's ok to agree with me!
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That wasn't a crack towards you idoc, I just don't like reccomending divorce.
Re: What to do? idocsteve: [quote author=Lumpy link=topic=36546.msg389272#msg389272 date=1161649837">
That wasn't a crack towards you idoc, I just don't like reccomending divorce.
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Re: What to do? Mo: I tried to talk to him last night. It didn't seem to be a good time even though he was sitting there watching tv and I was playing with block with my littlest one. He said "now?", like we were in the middle of ...Something, I don't know what. He doesn't want to talk to me so I figure the best thing might be to put my thoughts and plans on paper, get it organized and then let him read it. I suppose after a nice read like that, he might want to talk...or yell at me. Whatever. Is that a lame way to go about it. See...I say "can we talk" or "let's talk" and he either completely ignors me, tells me it isn't a good time or yells.
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