Re: Full Disclosures tara: We talking sex?
I'd want to know if a man I was dating was a virgin, or if he'd only had sex with his late wife, or something like that.
I'd want to know if a man I was dating had disproportionate risk for STDs, either because of IV drug use (<--note: deal breaker if it's anything resembling recent), bisexuality, lots of partners, etc.
In between? I don't really care. I'm 31, and expect most people my age have a story or 10.
That said...J and I seem to not be jealous about anything, so we both know WAY more about each other's past than most people in our situation would.
Re: Full Disclosures fly: I take each person I meet differently.
Full disclosure if I really start to connect with you. But not in one night. It's really hard for me sometimes to talk about the pain and the ugly. You know, none of us want to have someone see the warts.
But I am learning that honesty is the best idea. No matter what.
But then I have met people where yes, I am very honest, but gloss over the pain and just " tell the story" as if it were a movie and I was just a charater.
Does that even make any sense?
Re: Full Disclosures alonewith2: I'd want some disclosure, but not necessarily FULL disclosure. I could do without the very intimate details. If we are talking sex, then I don't even need to know a number. Has it been a few, many, more than the phonebook, etc...that's all I need to get an idea.
Re: Full Disclosures Trish: No I don't believe full exposure (that's what I call disclosure) is necessary. Now if your a creep I am smart enough to do a full background check on you and have a few of my friends come shake you down, but other than that? No. I don't need to know everything about you unless I'm getting married to ya and even then, I don't want to know about the hot blonde with bigger boops you bopped in 92 LOL. I'm not sharing my life story with anybody. You have to knock my socks off before that day comes. That's hard to do. Well right now anyhow since I'm a wee bit tad jaded LOL.
Even if your asked, you have the right to say nicley "Hey I would preferre not to talk about that subject". It's cool. Boudaries are good.
Re: Full Disclosures fkunone: After browsing everyone's response, I think honesty in light of communications is a judgement call. I mean, if you think about it, when it comes to dealing with anyone, be it work, etc. you have to judge whether or not it is important to say anything about the subject matter. At that point, you learn life's lessons.
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