not been here for a while(finally caught them together) simon lacey: Hi guys not been here for a while not sure if anyonr remebers me, i had my doubts for a long time that claire was cheating with her driving instructor, there was somemany different incidents that she always had a good excuse for, you all read how she blamed it all on my problems, over the past 4 monthsi have been going to a marrage councellor, i have had all my friends and family telling me that there is another man , part of me belived them, when i questioned her thee was always a excuse, well on sunday i finally caught them, he is a 45 year old man ugly, who lives in a smelly 1 bed apartment, she is 31.
i lost my temper and i ended up getting charged with assault.
spending 2 days in prison. you know what hurts me the most is all the lies and deciet, the fact that she is still lying now to our 4 kids. i promised my self that if i found out she was lying, than i would destroy both their lives, not physically but everything they have around them, so they would know how it felt for me, we live in a small town, she has lied to all her friends and family.
one thing i have learnt from all this is when you have been with someone for such a long time and you have a gut feeling that something is going on , dont let in lie till you know the truth, people you think you know and love, are possible of lying and deciet, i wish i had listened to all the advice on here that there was another man.
i will try and come back in the future and let you know how my life is going.
you know on jun 26 this year i lost my house my kids the woman i used to love and know, i was blamed for all the problems, on dec 6 i have apossiblty of being sentenced and imprisoned. all because i couldnt stop loving someone. you know life isnt fair sometimes.
take care guys
simon
Re: not been here for a while(finally caught them together) lonewolf: Simon, i know its easier for me to say compared to what you're going through, but stay strong, man. Feel free to vent here, anytime.
Re: not been here for a while(finally caught them together) chum: people that haven't been through this have no idea how much it hurts, they can be there and support you but people that have been there and understand the feelings help so much more. we are here for you
try to focus on something positive it will help
Re: not been here for a while(finally caught them together) tripny2k6: Maybe some relief to you? If this is your first offense, you will probably be able to dodge the prison sentence. They're also going to consider your circumstances.
Get counseling, hang in there. We're here for you!
Re: not been here for a while(finally caught them together) rhhope: although, I don't believe in violence I hope you beat the shat out of that guy. I just found out recently, after a year of doubt, that my wife has been and is with another man. Trust me if I see this guy he will get a beating and they can haul me off to jail with a smile on my face. What is up with these people? I know it takes two to tango but these OW/OM out there are ruining marriages that can and should be fixed. I wish you the best.
