Re: Question for all. Mo: My husband (barely still living 2gether) is like that alot. Only missed when we're gone, etc. I'm going to ask him to leave and he is suddenly not going to be able to live without us even though he can't stand us much. Emotions are crazy.
Re: Question for all. fkunone: [quote author=Smiley link=topic=36584.msg389547#msg389547 date=1161700429">
If you think back (being the dumpee in your relationship) to your break-up, would you say that your feelings for that person were exaggerated based on the fact that the person isn't available, and that you were rejected?
What I mean is, are the thoughts of what was, or could have been, over powering the pain and bad that this person has caused, so you end up missing that person more because of the fact that he/she initiated the break-up?
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Well, I'm sure it can happen that the feelings you have for a person can overpower the hurt that they may have caused because of the rejection. I hardly think though, and check me if you think I'm wrong, that the absence of someone's feelings generally attribute to the idea that the other's is stronger.
At the same time, even though they initiated the break up, I'm sure that the dumpee could feel like they are missing the person who initiated the break-up, no matter what.
I think maybe because there were some loose ends that were never resolved. Or maybe just unanswered questions. Or maybe there is still something they want from them.
All in all, some questions may end up just remaining unanswered.
Re: Question for all. yella: [quote author=flyaway link=topic=36584.msg389558#msg389558 date=1161701025">
ps. stop drinking so much coffee, smiley. :P
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Funny! HA HA! :P I'll never give up my coffee! ;D
It was a serious question. I noticed that many people here, just after a break-up, or while it's happening, express such strong feelings for that person, so I've wondered why that is.
I know in the past, if I didn't initiate a break-up, I "felt" as if I loved him more now that he was gone, than I did while we were together. So, I thought I'd ask if anyone else felt the same, or at least thought about it.
Re: Question for all. kN3eLb4Z0d: I always think of dumpers as cold-hearted, evil, cruel, irredeemable devil worshippers. I wish pain and misery on them. Ok, maybe not always, but certainly in situations when the reasons involve meeting someone else or identity crisis type stuff. That's crap.
I just saw the Juggernaut come through here. Rock on.
Re: Question for all. Feel: Wow, you made me think back to a love for a man I thought I was gonna marry, just to find myself with my X now who ::)!
I'm thinking and I see :'( :'( :'( :'(.... after putting up with that X, I new it wasn't gonna work, he had gona away for a vacation to cuba a second time after I ask ed him not too and came back 10lbs ligter so I knew something happened, he fooled around and thought he got bit... I stuck by him to get tests done to make sure he didn't get any diseases, but after I noticed even then, he still ahd something to say about what I did with my money and him always needing to be centre of attention I knew I had to leave.... Tho , I new he loved me dearly adnhe was mmarriage material, I still walked.... for six minths after I had love notes on my car, flowers on my bed.... cards on top of cards.... he even drove to my house before work to spell I LOVE YOU on my car window thru the morning fog!
I knew he loved me and it killed me to walk... but after you do that to me, I stcik by you I am 22 years old and you want to keep track of my money when we hardly ever een ent out for dinner because I had to hear him complain about having to save his money because he had to pay for school, well I just thought I was more important....
It hurt me a lot... I thought we were gonna marry, but I still talk to him once and a while na dhe is still single 7 years later, adn still tells me I was his only love... but I don't ahve those feeling for him anymore!
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