Re: Article: Women Fess Up About Cheating yella: [quote author=Tarheel link=topic=36585.msg389726#msg389726 date=1161708730">
So, you lose your commom sense when you get into your 30's?
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Hardly... you gain compassion in your 30's. At least most of us do. It all comes with experience, Buddy. The key is to learn from what you experience, and have compassion for those going through it.
Your views will change in certain areas. What you're so skeptical about now, you might have compassion and understanding for later. ;)
The trick is to try to understand why things happen, and not blame so much. You know?
Re: Article: Women Fess Up About Cheating TarheelMike: So, you lose your commom sense when you get into your 30's?
Re: Article: Women Fess Up About Cheating yella: Yes I do. Which is why I want you to check back with me in 10 years. :P
Re: Article: Women Fess Up About Cheating TarheelMike: [quote author=Smiley link=topic=36585.msg389720#msg389720 date=1161708439">
Check back with me in 10 years. ;) You'll have a whole new view, little bro.
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You obviously don't know how stubborn I am.
[quote author=pluscachange link=topic=36585.msg389719#msg389719 date=1161708357"> You bet it makes sense. See it every single day.[/quote">
Oh, I know that much. It still doesn't make sense though.
Article: Women Fess Up About Cheating TarheelMike: I ain't touching this one... yet.
“Why I cheated”: Women fess up
By Chelsea Kaplan
You’ve probably heard that men cheat for physical reasons, women for emotional reasons. Sure, there’s some truth to that, but when we asked real women around the country to share why they strayed from their boyfriends, we learned they had a whole host of explanations—from bad kissing to sheer revenge. Read on for the truth about why women have given in to temptation.
Reason #1: There’s no passion
“I had been with John for about three years—he was a really nice guy, and I enjoyed being with him, but there wasn’t a ton of passion. Most everyone we knew had gotten engaged, and though John would have proposed in a second, whenever he brought it up, I’d change the subject. I took a trip to Australia for work, and while I was gone, I got together with a co-worker to whom I’d always been insanely attracted. I had a fantastic trip, probably because for the first time in a long time I experienced that excitement I’d been missing. I broke up with John soon after I returned home, and began dating the guy from the trip. Even though I’m not super-proud of my actions, things ended up for the best: After dating for a few years, the guy from the trip and I got married, and we’re incredibly happy together.”
– Giselle, 30, Montvale, NJ
Reason #2: To delay a breakup
“Right before I was going to break up with my ex, Sean, he found out that he had to put his beloved dog to sleep. He was so broken up about it that I didn’t have the heart to end things, so I waited a month or so until he was in better shape. When things seemed to be better and I was ready, he lost his job, so I felt like I was back to square one! By that time, I had met someone else that I really wanted to start seeing, so I went ahead and did it. I eventually ended things, never telling Sean about my extra-curricular dating. I think I rationalized that I was trying to spare his feelings.”
– Stacy, 30, Lexington, KY
Reason #3: Because absence doesn’t make the heart grow fonder
“My boyfriend Greg and I decided to do the long-distance thing after I was accepted to a graduate program 200 miles from where we lived. The first few months were fine, but I soon found myself becoming extremely attracted to my lab partner, Henry. What began as innocent flirting eventually wound up with us in bed. After the program was over, I returned home to Greg. Being with him was really difficult, but I didn’t break up with him initially because I was still attracted to him, too. I visited Henry a few times, and realized that he was really more of a fling, probably born out of boredom, and that Greg was the one for me. I eventually stopped communicating with Henry. I never told Greg about what happened, which occasionally makes me feel guilty, but I chalk my cheating up to being young and silly. He and I are still together, four years since my program ended.”
– Tamara, 33, Portland, OR
Reason #4: So she’s not left out in the cold
“I began dating Eric shortly after I had been dumped by Dave, my boyfriend of two years. I was devastated and Eric was definitely a rebound thing. After Eric and I had dated for five months, Dave came back and wanted to give things another shot. I still really missed him, so I began seeing him, but never ended things with Eric. I think I sort of kept Eric around for insurance purposes, just in case things didn’t end up well with Dave. Dave and I didn’t make it on round two, and after Eric discovered through mutual friends that I had been seeing him again, he ended things with me. I definitely learned my lesson about dating two guys at the same time, not to mention trying to rekindle a relationship that’s just plain over.”
– Jen, 28, Oak Park, IL
