When it is dead it is dead galil: I wonder why some people stay here and post and continue to post.
Is it because we have not accepted that our marriage is over?
Are we trying to find answers for how we got where we were?
I am not sur eto the answer but I have come to the conclusion my marriage is dead. I am not needed and wanted and have to make peace with this.
Posting here will not fix what once was, I was married, now I am not. that is the reality of things and I have nocotrol over that anymore.
We have to move on, we cant sift thru the rubble in signs of hope that we might be able to revive the dead.
I have FINALY, accepted the demise of my last relationship, and now will move on.
I am not sure of what the best action to moving on is. I just know hanging out on the iternet is no way to achieve this.
I have a cutomer who flies for UPS and his daughter and I have become friends. she has been aware of what I have been going thru and is helping me get thru this phase of letting go. She has all the qualities you would look for in a partner, and, has expressed interest, when the time was right for us to maybe give it a chance.
I have buried my relationship and even though it seems so soon I realy feel a connection with this person. I would hate to think I missed out on someone wonderful while trying to hold on to something that needed to be buried. Wish me luck I talked with her this morning and we are going to start hanging out together to see where things go.
When one door closes another usualy opens, I hope this is the right door.
Galil < < < xess fingers ;D
Re: When it is dead it is dead flyaway: Cool! best to you galil! ;D
Re: When it is dead it is dead JimB: My friend, I know you haven't hung around here as much as you can to try to "fix" stuff. It's good to just talk it out and figure out (often on your own) what to do next.
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I am not sure of what the best action to moving on is. I just know hanging out on the iternet is no way to achieve this.
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OK. Hope it works out for you. Sounds to me like you are jumping from one boat to another without checking for leaks first, but sometimes that ends up ok.
Glad you are in a good place, though, bro. All the best.
Re: When it is dead it is dead galil: JIm, buddy I am not saying I cant stay and read ad post. I guess I just need to tell myself it is finaly ok to move on.
I know for me I always fall victim to the "hope" that maybe it could work, if she want it too. My ex has played with my emotions during all of this and it is not healthy for me. My son is the only thig importat at this time. However, I can't keep re-living the past. It is dead ad I need to move on, go out and do things.
Life does go on and if I hit it off with someone else who knows? I waited what I would consider a long time before my last marriage to move on and I see where it got me LOL.
Can't be any worse than where I am now? Anyway thanks for the ehads up bud, I am glad I have people looking out for me. trust me we all coudl use a little more of that.
Re: When it is dead it is dead Mo: I'm new here so my journey has just begun. Sounds like you are closer to the end of the road. My comment is that the beginning of being over it is realizing you need to move on, interest in other persons and more and more time between thoughts of the past. I say go for it at your own pace and go for it. It sounds like this new person understands what you have gone through. Smile, you deserve it.
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